My biggest turn on is a guy that knows what he wants and goes after it. Looks and intelligence are important too, but to me nothing is less attrsctive than a submissive man.

The answer to you question depends on where you are in the relationship. Is it a first date or is it the hundredth? For a first date take to to do something fun and exciting, preferable something she has never done before, and something nontheatening. In a more permanent relationship take her on a weekend mini vacation in a super romantic location, my personal favorite is winter park colorado during a good snow year (go skiing or snowmodiling durring the dsy and st night Light a fire and cook dinner together and have one heck of a romantic evening).

I think that this situation can be great if both partners are on the same page. But both need to be open and honest about the rules of the relationship because if and when one parten breaks the rules then there is no more benefits and no more friendship.