I am 12' tall when I need to be Baby.

I gotta admit...all this fiesty, high cheekbone , take no crap thing is probably gonna replace my Xena:Warrior Princess fantasy tonight.

Deal with it sister.

Yep...and take it easy on us girly men shorty...hehehehehehe

I know, you are only six one...you can't help it that you are short honey.

heheheheheehehehe

No one should ever have to hold back or water down who they are just so they can get a date or two. Not only would it be dishonest, but you would also be selling yourself short in the process. That goes even when running the chance of hurting someone's feelings.

thekre8tv1, I read your profile and didn't see anything wrong with it.. You state what you're about, what you want and expect... There's nothing wrong with that... People here aren't saying to not be yourself, they are saying that your chances of meeting the person you want to meet will open up if the chip on your shoulder isn't always so apparent.. Living in NJ or NY is different from most part of the US but all cities have their tough areas... When I moved back to Cali after living in NJ for 17yrs, I had to readjust to the more laid back personalities b/c I was found too forward. We can be who we are, not sacrifice our integrity of our person and still have a softer compassionate side... Nothing is black and white, the world and life has a lot of gray areas that we must acknowledge or it is "us" who is living in our own little world not those that prefer a little sugar coating... JMHO

Ok .. I honestly lose interest in an OP that is ALLL one paragraph. That's what the 'enter' button is for .. breaks it up. Just sayin.

It's like a massive run-on sentence - I'm just not patient enough to read thru all that without a break. Sorry. Call me ADD if you like. I can handle it.

Could you 'condense' the sermon to bullets w/3 keys points? Might figure out what you're 'venting' on then .. THANKS!

OMG. I actually gave up on reading when I hit the last of page 4.. I saw this post this morning and thought "way to go" so what she has thick skin an attitude( btw an attitude is nothing more then your acceptance or non acceptance of someone else's behavior) so what someone doesn't agree with her style. Are we so lame that we all shopuld have a uniform way of how we seek to find someone on here? I too have heard these same lectures and from the same people. Christ just when does it stop? I am sure some people have "their way " of how they handle things. IT does not mean it works for someone else. Approach it the way you want. We are individuals not friggin sheep to follow what one or the other thinks is best....

I say do what suits you and if someone doesn't like it.. they don't have to talk with you...do they?


btw I have lived all over the world including NY.. so I know what she means

Hey! I like this lady!!!

I plan to stand on this soap box next her!!!!
Or was I already doing that??????

No you can't! And why try?
I have always believed....(thanks Mom!)
If your not true to yourself.....how can you be true to the one your with...same goes for loving yourself.

(*Come to the dark side, Luke*)

1. I only want to be around people that are positive.

2. If you are not a positive person, stay away from me!


Both sentences are direct and saying the same thing yet one is negative and the other is positive.


Most people respond better to sentence number one.

I'm about as east coast as you can be. Being blunt, direct, and having preferences are good. You have stepped beyond that into negativity.

You know the cliche about not being able to see the forest from trees? Well there ya go...

ME!!!!
I have not won over many a people here with my do-gooder-personality ( like I have one of those! HAH!) and really at this point and any other point in my life, I don't give a crap what people who don't know me think of me!

I know what I want and how to get it, and it sounds like you do too!

first...i'm not your love.

my point is there is a way to be a straight shooter without coming across in a rude way

excuse me? and you wonder why people have reacted the way they have in here?

how many times have you said it's an east coast thing or because of where you live???? i didn't miss that....did you?

Krupa well said! That's why I luv ya, baby.....everyone has a difference of opinions, and everyone should respect that, also, take into consideration that people have been through different things in their lives to form those opinions.
If you read my profile it has some REALLY specific things in it that has been misconstrued as rude and negative.....but ya know what?
To bad! I have had to do this as a updating thing since I started on this site. Comes down to what I wrote in my profile.
The OP here has a point and even though other's don't agree, there may circumstances that have led her to write her profile the way it is......I say...way to stand up for your self!!! WOO HOO!!!!!

Where's the fun in THAT??

anyone that thinks that no other state or country doesn't have it tough is wrong. people have had to develope tough skins all over the world....doesn't mean it has to be negative.