Having been there, done that, and burned more than once...If I ever get married again, i will suggest tattooed on rings! Or hit the ring with my Bic before slipping it on his finger. LOL

I fully agree, Scoundrel.

I think they just shift. What was important when we were younger are maybe not as important now. When you are younger, looks are usually #1, at my age, looks are important, but they are not the determining factor. Don't get me wrong, there absolutely must be physical attraction there...otherwise I would still be married!

Passionate beyond words. The best lover I could ever imagine.
Sex appeal that got me excited just looking at him.
Kindest heart ever, would never hurt a soul. Treated me like a queen.

Too bad they were all 3 different men, and none had any of the other qualities!

I was there. And he still loves me to death, and I him. Just not in an intimate way. We are the best of friends. For the last 5 years of our 20 year marriage I kept asking, "Can't we just be friends?" Guess I wasn't joking. But I was doing him and myself a terrible injustice by staying and I resented him terribly for expecting and accepting intimacy from me when I did not want it with him. He still tries, and we have tried since we split. it still isnt there.
We are better off as friends.

Why not talk about it? Its safe! And if you aren't getting any...why not talk about it?

SEE!? That's what I thought this would be!
Maybe the real jaded ones, the ones who were offended by this post are not looking for women??? If so, maybe they oughtta rethink that if we are THAT rotten!? Just asking.

GEEZE! I thought this would be fun! I was thinking it would be more like, "Why do women insist on me putting the cap back on the toothpaste when I'm just gonna use it again?" and things like that!
Didn't mean to ruffle this many feathers!
How does one go about deleting a topic???

You fill in the blanks guys. Let us answer you. Maybe then you will understand us a lil better?

Is that sarcasm?
I just know that almost every single thing there about slapped me in the face when my friend sent it to me. Sorry.

Same here Kim...I'll drink to that!

Absolutely! I copied and pasted it, didnt want to go thru and change all the gender specific stuff. But yes, it goes both ways. I am not a man basher.

If A MAN WANTS YOU...

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.

If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.

Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.

Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.

Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be.

Slower is better.

Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly
happy.

If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you
deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't
mistreat a friend.

Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he
probably is.

Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at
yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.

The only person you can control in a relationship is you.

Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently?

Always have your own set of friends separate from his.

Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.

If something bothers you, speak up.

Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.

You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within.

Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a
quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.

Never let a man define who you are.

Never borrow someone else's man.If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.

A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.

All men are NOT dogs.

You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a
two-way street.

You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute
about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new
relationship.

You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship
consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone
complimentary...not supplementary.

Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr.. Right.

Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and you're always readily available to him- he takes it for granted.

Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you
need.

Keep him in your radar but get to know others.

"He who goes to bed with itchy butt wakes up with stinky finger."


oops, didnt see it already posted. Great minds!

I had one say to me once, "I'm a dentist, can I fill your cavity?"
PIG

OKOKOKOK!!! I will take some with a smile!
My eyes close when I smile, I mean like disappear!!! But I will try. Thank you all so much!

I took the pics of myself. dont want a fake smile!

Constructive feedback welcome! Guys and girls