I have a couple times left and came back. Never really left though Not having internet at times is why. The nice thing about coming back is seeing some friends that are still around.

Living in the past is something I don't do. Yes things come up once in a while, but it's knowing how to move on from it. So right now knowing i'm starting over again from moving back to Cali. I guess This is where I start writing...

I was living in Utah up untill a couple days ago. Facebook was a great way to stay intuch with my family. It's not hard to use and I have ran into some old friends.

Where I live right now, ill be glad i'm leaving in two weeks. Where i'm going is Cali on the coast. A lot less stress and ill enjoy raising my son out there.

I'm not sure how to feel right now. I'm happy that I get to move back to Cali with my son, but at the same time my friends I know out here are moving too, to where I can't just take a drive and see them. So ill be missing some things out here In UT.

For those that kind of know me. The judge signed the custody order
and I have custody of my son It's been a long three years, but well worth fighting for my son. So I can move back to Cali when I'm ready too and no one to stop me

I also just want to thank everyone that knew they helped me or not. No names just thank you all

Yep, ill put my foot down. She will be getting out in a couple weeks and I know the Ole poor me...

One thing I have learned in life is not to enable anyone. It will just keep them from growing.

I think the reason I posted this was more for me to be reminded where things really are and sometimes just chatting a little can go a long ways.

I know what your saying Andy, She is Bi-polar and has to take for medications just to be somewhat normal. A year and a half ago she was never like this and your right. The speed she does from time to time doesn't help her in anyway. My thing is if I could help and i know i can't, but it would be more on when talk to her to keep things real on how they are at that point. Talking about our son Seems to help a little, but as we all know once they are walk away. it's like you never really talked. If and when she gets clean, the rest might fall into place. But it's like you said. This is where she has to take the action and really want it before anything will change. Until then, I will be a friend, but there is limits to that on this one.

At this point id say yes. Id do all the **** were not suppose to do. Hell, it would be fun robing a bank just for the hell of it and then doing a car chase etc etc As long as no one gets hurt. Id wouldn't mind knowing i'm on my way out

Right now I have to agree with everyone as far as letting her live with me. It's not a good idea just the couple days she was here, she was acting weird. I gave her a couple days and that was it.

She is not living with me. I let her stay a couple days and it wasn't long as I was thinking. She was arrested again 2 days ago, so when she gets out. She will have to bring a officer to get her stuff. from the way she has been acting and how she was arrested. I'm not letting her back in. I gave her a couple days to find a place and in that time she did sign the agreement we have. As I sent a email to you. There is no way I can help anyone that far gone knowing they don't really want help anyway.

It's interesting being on dating sites other then the forums.I have to say that out almost all the women that have been interested in me, that checked out my profile. I had to be the one to get things rolling. I'm sure there are more that I haven't contacted that like to hid when looking at ones profile. So, I have to say that when it comes to dating. Men uaually have to be the ones to make the first contact. It is actually a shame that there aren't more women out there then right now that have no problem being a little more agressive then other women.

For me it's not so hard raising my son. It's his mother that doesn't know how to be there for him at this point. I believe both parents should be in their childs life inspite how the parents feel about each other. By both parents being in a childs life it's helps with a childs develament, as long as both the parents are heathy to say too.

How about stop trying to figure out what he wants and actually do what you want. It's understandable that you want him back. But there is no sense driving yourself nuts trying to figure him out when you have yourself to take care of. And that alone goes for anyone.

Thank you,

I try to do whats best for my life as i do for our son. See, knowing me and the mother had our problems. it doesn't mean things can't work out as far as us communicating for the best interest for our son. By all means, I have my part in this relationship as she does. So in all, i'm still learning things from this and always will. The good thing at this point is. were learning how to be friends and will see where things will go from there.


Just one more thing. Even though I might be heading the right way and have somewhat of head on my shoulder. I still need to be reminded of thing from time to time.

I think taking care of yourself is better then letting somone else do it. You never know what might happen

I'm here because i helped build this site JK although I did get the new members forum up


Actually though, I have to say the same thing as Txsgal said. I was tired of the bs paying sites when I first started signing up on dating sites. Lesson learned, and now i'm here because I can be

I agree, and know a lot of what you all are saying. I been around AA for 30 years of my life. It has open my eyes up to a lot of things in life.

At this point knowing we have been talking about this for this last month and a half, and made the document together. Monday we will go to the court and sign this in front of the clerks at the Courts office. So at this point I think she is at least being honest about that. If not, it would be a big mistake knowing the court is taking her rights away from her for the other two little girls. Her sister that has them and her side of the family that don't want to have anything to deal with her right now. Said, they will go to court with me and will bring up the DCF case and all the other arrested between her and her bf in court. I wouldn't have any problem getting my son that way knowing it's the same judge that is taking her rights away from her right now and is ready to condemn her as an unfit mother.

I'm just trying to keep the peace at this point and not wanting to do this the ugly way. I want her to be in our sons life, but she needs help and knows it. Time will tell...

Thanks Romeo.

That is what this is about. Our son