Because Santa once again failed to deposit my dream man wrapped up under the tree, and this is Bakersfield, CA, I am stuck in, not Santa Monica! So the pickins is slim, very very slim. I am too wise to scope for dudes in the bars and clubs, Churches have mostly families, elderly and youngish married couples. Oh, and last but not least...the seemingly perfect match Bulgarian man I met via another previous date site, turned out to be unable to not freakout when he started getting deeper in Love not able to focus or think about anything else whenever I was near him, and he said because of that falling behind on his work trying to start his own business while being in a committed, serious relationship..."overwhelmed" him.