I think the key to this is "...THEY DON'T FIND ATTRACTIVE." I've had two marriages that lasted over 10 years. I found the first wife to be very ugly, the second was the cutest thing I was ever with. Years later, and emotionally detached, I realize the first wife was actually physically attractive, it was her inner ugliness that shown through. The second wife had the face of a bulldog and the body of Buda, but to this day I still find her attractive. Her personality and other inner attributes made her attractive.