You need to let this guy go because he has ever right to be treated with
honesty and respect just as you do. You need to give him the chance to
meet a loving, honest and respectful woman that does not have these
thoughts in her mind. You seem to be quite mixed up and it is not fair
to this good man (your words) to take away his chances to find a woman
that will appreciate him. There are a lot of people that do not really
want a man/woman like that in their life. They prefer their "freedom"
to do as they please, which means that these people are not ready or
might never be ready to be in a one on one fulfilling relationships.
And that is a choice, not to be judged by anyone, BUT it is unfair and
selfish to string a person along that deserves better than being lied to
and not honestly being told what the other person wants or not wants.
There are many loving women that are waiting for a chance to meet a man
like that - the sad thing is that there are women have a man like this
but want everything their way. Healthy relationships are not built that
way. It would never last or develop into a healthy and lasting
relationship. That takes communication, honesty and guts and by guts I
mean having the guts and leave a relationship like that and give the
man/woman a change to heal from the hurt they might feel and give them
the chance to move on to a person that wants him/her and will appreciate
him/her.
Take it easy ...... Good Luck..... Do the right thing.