First, your lead in "cuffsnstuff" immediately says "kinky" to me, which I'm not into, so if that's not your thing is misleading. Then again if that's what you're into, then it's great! You're not my type but that's okay. I'd still be your friend. ;-)

I don't believe age is a ruling factor so much as the distance. Most people have a need for physical affection other than sexual, and long distance doesn't afford that. But if a pair of people find they truly are comparable and began to care about one another, it is possible for one of the payout to relocate in order for them to be together. There is no rule that says they couldn't each make an effort to meet in the middle of the distance between for a weekend together to see if chemistry exists and there is truly a possibility of a relationship working. Unfortunately for some reason, most people don't wish to put it that effort or expense to check out out; it's probably their loss though because they could be missing out on the opportunity to meet the person that might be exactly who they were looking for.
See, I would be willing to do that just to know i didn't miss the person is spent years looking and looking for. Why not?

I'm with you dear. I've been trying online dating for almost a year now and have been on two dates, neither successful connections. Now i have been solicited to be a cougar by many barely legal adults, asked to help in an emergency by men working outside the US or in the military on peace keeping missions, and meet several perverts, so one can't say it's not interesting but it is definitely frustrating at times. So remember a few things: don't let a few bad experiences damper your hope is finding someone, and never give up on your dream of finding someone because the day you quit could be the day he shows up lookingfor someone just like you. ;-)

I'm struggling with making connections that last more than a couple of brief conversations, and the profile views more than quadruple the number of messages I'll receive from those who look. (Really more like one in four or fifty, but i don't have such a term for that. Lol.)
Please help me here cuz i really desire to make a true connection with someone nice.
Thanks!
L