You're right there, however some people are sucked in so easily. my ex husband never once asked me for money...he was too busy getting that from other women, so I had absolutely no reason to suspect him until 5 weeks after I married him to find he was on umpteen dating sites with multiple fb accounts. It was then that I got in contact with a few women who told me they were all in a relationship with him!!

Just to add...they will start asking for very small amounts of money 1st, such as they need money to buy cigarettes, or they'll say they lost their mobile phone, then it'll get bigger, asking money for gym memberships or that a member of their family is seriously ill and in need of an operation. You will find they will all ask you to send money via Western Union xxx

Hi Kim, thanks for your post too
Like I said, if anyone would like any advise, I'm more than willing to help..thankfully I have a degree in Criminology so I knew where to report my ex husband etc xxx

Hi Flissandra,
Yes, please be very careful...it's a business to them, or Bezness as it's otherwise known. There's lots of info online, and I would advise anyone to research the net for info, you'll soon get to know the warning signs. Just be careful and please stay safe, if you need any advise at all, I'm only too pleased to help any one given my unfortunate experience. There is one good site called tunisianloverats.com, there are many many threads on there offering great advise, and lots of stories from other women (and men) who went through the same as me. Best of luck to you xxx

Bless your heart Tim, Im so sad to hear you were caught up in a scam too, it's truly heartbreaking, but it's great that you now know the warning signs. x

It is a very dangerous thing to be involved in Bill... I even had death threats from my ex husband, he was Tunisian, they are known scammers, however I found out the hard way. They are very very clever people at making you feel special. My ex husbands whole family were in on his scamming too, they don't see you as a human being, you're merely a ''passport to happiness''
Best of luck to you too Bill

Please be aware there are scammers on this site, and I just want to warn you of the dangers they impose.
I sadly married one not knowing what he was up to, and had a very lucky escape, he scammed me for a visa, thankfully he didn't get it! He was also scamming a lot of women at the same time for thousands of pounds.
I came across one yesterday whom I've reported on here.
Tell tale signs to look out for are they will message you and tell you straight away that they love you, they will then ask you if you have skype, msn or fb. I could tell this guy was scammer, and I tested him, I allowed him to add me on fb, and as I thought, he had no profile pic, his account had literally just been created and I was his only friend on there, so I blocked him straight away.
There are many useful links on the net to warn about the dangers of ''Bezness''
I also read this before which I found pretty scary:


From hundreds of miles away, a man sits at his monitor watching an unsuspecting woman use her computer, undress and go to sleep. She has no idea she’s being watched. The remote attacker has installed software to control her webcam. What’s worse, he’s recording all of her actions and posting those videos on YouTube or trading the videos with other voyeurs online.
R.A.T. Remote Access Tools
This scenario is happening more and more; there are myriad photos and videos available online indicating the practice is getting easier and more popular with an online community called Ratters. They use Remote Access Tools (R.A.T.s) to activate the webcams of compromised computers and record video of unsuspecting users. They call the owners of these infected computers “slaves,” and compromising videos, especially of female slaves, are openly traded, and posted on YouTube.
Online Forums of Ratters Grow
The practice of taking over a computer is not new. Hackers have produced software for years that gives complete control of a machine to a remote attacker. Aspects of these tools are also common in the IT field for offering remote tech support. But what’s new is the community of remote attackers who have formed in hacking forums to share or trade access to the enslaved computers and talk about their exploits.



Please be careful if you open links from anyone, and last of all...good luck to you all out there!!!