ROFLMAO!!!!

I just don't even know what to say to that!!Hahaaaahahhaha!! Turtle on LSD...lol!!

Yeah...you are right though..non drinkers or even minimal drinkers are hard to find ANYWHERE...online or otherwise. That is really sad. Sorry to hear that you have lost loved ones to that. The only thing I lost was my marriage...not quite the same. You can replace a marriage (hopefully) but you can not replace people.

I have run into a few crazies myself....not like your crazies...but definitely crazy!!

It seems that when someone can not find the sort of person they are looking for and they keep running into the 'not good' people, as we discussed earlier, they have a tendency to become jaded...myself included. We then question why it is that we can not find that particular someone with as big as this world is...hence the original question...are my preferences too abnormal? Is that why I am still single? Maybe. Is it my looks? Maybe. Am I too stubborn or too jaded and it shows? Probably. Maybe it is just too hard to find someone that I can put up with that can also put up with me!!! Maybe that is the problem. Maybe it's just plain 'ol chemistry...who knows.

A wise lady once said that she still has her rose colored glasses on. Part of me has a small tint of rose and mourns the loss of the glasses...but the rest of me has become tired and jaded by the duds, the selfishness, and the total lack of caring on the part of most of the guys out there (sorry guys, I know that ALL of you aren't bad). I do always take a look in the mirror and I know my faults...in looks as well as personality. I work on the personality and if they don't like the looks, so be it...but it is a learning process and it takes time..the being single process has taught me quite a bit about myself...good and bad things...I want to share the good things within myself with someone else..and want to find someone that will encourage me to continue working on the 'bad' parts. My 'bad' parts are normal 'bad' parts...I don't steal, I don't cheat, I care for people I don't know...BUT...I am stubborn and can be anti-social at times (I know that this is shocking!)... but really...who isn't? Are these 'bad' parts keeping the men away or are the men with the major 'bad' parts keeping me from the 'good ones' due to my becoming jaded? Or would that then be self sabotage in a sense? Your partner should always make you better than you were before you met them but the foundation has to already be there. I just haven't found that someone.

My ex was not only a raging alcoholic but a drug addict, constantly depressed, and a thief as well...I have two beautiful kids by him but that is all he really gave to me...most of the relationship was spent with me cheering him and supporting his sobriety only to find out that he wasn't so sober...quite an eye opening experience I must say. Now, it seems that there are so many more men out there like this that it contributes to my sense of all the 'good ones' being gone. I will not make the same mistake twice by thinking that I can change someone or help them through it. Again, they have to have the good foundation...I really thought he had it...and maybe he did...but when it endangered my kids...that was it...I have to think of them too. So, I have to be careful in choosing someone.

Ahhh...who really knows the answers to the why's of why we are single. I am sure that we all think that we are not so bad and that someone would be lucky to have us! Lol! Some are fools and some are right. Which am I? *Shrugs* I don't think I am a fool in that sense. Perhaps a fool in other ways...but all we can all really do is wait and hope and I am tired of one and losing the other.

One other wise lady said that maybe HE has another plan for me...I sure do hope so...I pray for it. Maybe it is in HIS plan for me to finish school and become 'established' before I meet someone. It usually is in HIS time and I usually have trouble with the patience of waiting for HIS time...Lord forgive me...until that time...I will just try to keep hope, continue to pray, and finish school while mothering my kids to the absolute best of my ability!

Honey, if that is abnormal...no wonder I'm having problems!!! Don't get me wrong...I drink occasionally. Could I stop and never drink again...yep. It's not something that is very important to me. I rarely drink anyway. The older I get the less I drink. My ex was a raging alcoholic so I would prefer someone that doesn't like to drink or is a very light drinker.

The last time everyone said he wasn't good for me...they were right. Though I still trust my own ability to decipher who is right or who is wrong for me, I don't discount what others say anymore.

...But I digress....if seeking someone who is not a 'drinker' is abnormal, maybe I should just stay single...and on purpose!! Lol!!

I'm sorry...I had to laugh about the arsonist...it's not funny but it is funny, if you know what I mean.

Yes, I made a mistake a long time ago and thought that this really nice guy wasn't 'for me'. I still wonder what would've happened if I had pursued that relationship further. Perhaps this is payback for kicking the nice guy to the curb?! If so, I sure have learned my lesson!!

Fantastic response!! Thank you for the honesty. That is what I'm looking for. I can understand your preference for someone with no kids...that doesn't make you bad..not at all. It just seems that the guys I run into get scared by kids. If I put myself in their shoes, I can understand. I just want to find someone that is ready for that challenge.

Yes, we are all different. As for skinny...it is relevant to me....glad you don't have that issue.

Cookie cutter facade eh? I don't think that myself in particular is looking for cookie cutter....just decent...not sure why that is so hard to find.

Maybe there is a difference between not good and not good for me but ultimately...aren't those that you would consider not good...not good for you?

Ahh hon...where do you get those glasses? I think I need some!!

Perhaps, but then again...perhaps not. I could state the other side of that argument but I will stay positive and continue to wonder...are they gone...if they aren't gone then can someone point me in the right direction?! I seemed to be lost! Lol!

galendgirl...point taken...my reference to the 'good ones' refers to men in the women's case and women in the men's case or vice versa depending on sexual preference...but yes, you are right, I don't believe that I am not worthy of someone or even that ALL good men are gone...perhaps there aren't any in my particular town. Hey...I'm willing to relocate!! Lol!

Etrain...just decent...someone that doesn't cheat, steal, lie about everything, drink to excess, or do drugs, is a responsible, caring human being. I am old enough to know that no one is perfect...not even myself but, someone that can show some common decency and not willingly hurt someone else.

Thanks Ms Carmen..I appreciate that...yes, I did consider that...but durn..6 years...I have to keep reminding myself that HE knows what's best!

Thanks!

Last time I checked I was a female... ....you think that's the problem? Lol!!!! I didn't think I looked like a man but hell...maybe I need to take a closer look!!

Lol ...ya'll really give me hope!!

Here I am, sitting in my room...trying (not too hard) to do a formal report for one of my classes...I know sounds fun right...wondering why in the world I can't find someone that I am attracted to and that is attracted to me?! I am 34 and have been single for 6 years now. I have a son 14 and a daughter 10. I am partially educated (working on that part), have a big badonckadonck, curves (well, maybe too many curves lol!), a pretty good personality when you get to know me and I wonder what in the world it will take to find that 'someone'. UGH! I am sick of being the 'extra' girl...if you ladies know what I mean. Everyone I know has a significant other...then there's me. Sigh...do guys really only want skinny girls with no kids? I myself am looking for a tall, dark, and handsome man with some meat on his bones, with or without kids, who is not crazy. Is that really so much to ask? Ladies, do you feel the same way in your area? Do you have trouble meeting guys and then when you finally do meet one and you are attracted to him you find out that he isn't attracted to you? OR...there are guys that hit on you but they are never your type? Guys, do you have the same problem? If so, why in the world is it so hard? Are all the good ones really taken? Are we destined to stay single the rest of our lives?!! (ok...maybe that was over the top...lol!)