buddy..there's always one common factor when you look at it.
and it all boild down to "you"

relationships and human interaction have their set of rules that you need to understand before you can even begin playing the game. There is a method to the madness,

I'll give you the tough love I wish I'd had 5 yrs ago. My advice is for you to stop complaining, stop seeking pitty from strangers online. When I read your post I didn't see a man..you need to become a man. I'm sure you're a smart guy, but you're not going about it the smart way.

Have you defined what you want? A girl (maybe)? but do you want a relationship? Something short term? What do you want your interactions with this girl to be like? What kind of girl do you want? What personality traits are you looking for?

Answer these questions and don't just flap your arms wildly and hang on to the first thing you can grab a hold of. Thats for wimps. Men have a purpose, look at what you want, go for it.

They say "be yourself"; but what they mean is "be your BEST self". But, If I have to learn to be different that who I am today, isn't that dishonest?..Hmm well you are not really you. If you follow, you are a collection of experiences, and the influence of the people thta have surrounded you throughout your life. Day by day you are being built, so..you HAVE a choice of being different, it;s a matter of destroying the stuff that;s been less than useful, build from the inside the person you want to become, day by day, brick by brick til you become the castle any woman will feel comfortable and safe in (figuratively speaking)

also,..seek help, there's three things we need in life to trully be fulfilled love, money, knowledge school only teaches us knowledge and the other two we're just supposed to learn on our own?? heck no, find those who are successful in those areas you are not and model them.


Best of luck in your journey to a better you and I hope my words do not fall upon deaf..hmm eyes I guess