Why would you make that assumption?? Now that is discrimination! I know you mean well, or atleast I hope you do. And why do you feel the need to apologize for the inappropriate actions of those for you have no association with? That's going to make you look like you're approval-seeking. There is no need. It will only complicate things.

There are many black women who date nothing but white men. Also there are some that do not have a preference. It's just whoever captures their heart.

I'm slightly offended by your remarks. But at the same, I realize that maybe you just haven't been educated about this matter. Quit making it a race issue.

She isn't really using you. It sounds like you're her boy toy. She's toying with your emotions. Therefore it's affecting your mental stability. She's probably trying to see if you get jealous. That is her way of seeing how much you really care. But to me that's playing games. If she really cares about you, she wouldn't feel the need to get your attention in such a negative way. It sounds like she may have some trust issues. That being said, I certainly do not think she is really ready for a relationship until she sorts out her issues.

On the other hand, she may not be interested anymore. I would have a talk with her and find out for yourself. Make sure you ask all of the right questions to get the answers you're looking for. But be prepared for the possibility of denial and no accountability for her own actions. If this does happen, I wouldn't waste your time. As a matter of fact, I probably wouldn't waste your time anyway. With exception of gaining some closure. Good luck!

Okay.. The first step is admitting to yourself that it's never going to be. Otherwise you will always have this glimmer of hope and expectations that will never come to be.

Second step is surround youself with family and friends. Sometimes is helps to get your mind off of things. It also helps to talk about it and get it off of your chest.

Third step is writing. If you get it all down on paper, it's no longer festering and haunting you inside. Whatever means you choose to write.

Fourth step is to accept it for what it is. You will probably always have a place in your heart for this person. But do not let it stop you from finding your mutual match! heh

errrm... I give up. 911!

Gorgeous

Gracious

Gratitude

Deliberate
Disassemble
Disestablishmentarianism

That's a hell of a good combo. Chicago and Doobie Brothers.

Darkowl: Type O Negative rocks!

That is awesome!! I would love to go to a Tom Petty concert.

Staind, Linkin Park, Counting Crows, John Mellencamp, Norah Jones, Sheryl Crow, KT Tunstall, Live, Collective Soul, 3 Doors Down, Etc....

Gypsy! You're a riot!

Skydive, Scubba Dive, and Ghost Hunting.

Thank God for Texas women!

Oh hell.. Angel, you seem to be getting hit on by everyone tonight. Better watch out Peccy. She's a hot commodity! jk

Sure! I would even add some Bailey's to the mix.

It's been about 3 months since I got drunk.

But I did have some to drink a couple of weeks ago.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!

I have never been married, but I have seen my mother go through 3 or her 4 marriages. I will say it isn't easy. There is so many things you have to juggle on a daily basis. Especially when you have kids. Although having kids can be very rewarding, it can also be very exhausting. I give kudos to all of the soccer moms out there.

I believe it also takes a lot of the mystery out of the relationship. It doesn't have to if people are willing to slow down and share small dosages of themselves at a time. Some people are not made for marriage because it makes them feel trapped. Communication is an essential part of any relationship/marriage. But this is so intricate for so many. Good communication skills takes practice and active listening. You must be good at multitasking because in a marriage there is certainly a lot of it. You have to be able to find time for each other as a couple and have fun together. It's imperative to have a solid friendship as well as lovers because it's important to like someone just as much as you love them. I have seen way too many love/hate relationships.

How it changes things.. Well, you will be around this person day and day out. The only thing certain in life is change. Therefore people change. It becomes stagnate if you stop participating in the flow. Some people will get bored of routines of everyday marriage. Some will show their true colors after marriage. Some people require more space than others and when married it makes them feel claustrophobic. I could go on and about the negative aspects that could come to pass in marriage. But there are also a lot of wonderful things that can come from marriage. But both people must be committed to making it work. It can be mentally and emotionally draining at times. So the key is to have enough strength to carry on regardless.

Happiness is finding balance and sense of self. Being happy with your own company before pursing outside companionship.