Loyalty: You describe a long distance relationship, to me. I was in one for four years. Everything was great...he was willing to relocate, but he needed to have found a job first. The job market was at its worse. What did he do? He gave up seeking employment and ended our relationship. He was loyal until he got frustrated looking for a job. So, unfortunately, loyalty does have it's limits. There is this Spanish saying...Amor de lejos, amor de pendejos...which translates to Love from a distance, love of idiots.

Leniency: If my love interest crosses the line...he's out...and I don't believe in revolving doors. I cannot allow myself to be hurt by someone's carelessness or selfishness. My heart has a few healing patches...do not want to add another one.