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Sat 05/24/08 08:56 PM
I'm not married!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Its my best friend from Highschool thank you very much!!

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Sat 05/24/08 08:48 PM
A good friend of mine just found out she is preg. and she wants to suprise her hubby of 3 years on Fathers day with a gift basically letting him know the good news. I really dont have any good ideas. Can you help?

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Thu 05/15/08 08:38 PM
Good news....it has all ended for good :)
I am happy! Its for the best!

Thanks to everyones advice!

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Thu 05/01/08 08:39 PM

My advice to you is this...Let him finish his old relationship before he starts a new relationship with you. If he cheated WITH you, he will cheat ON you!! I think your best move would be to totally end the relationship, I know you keep saying that he won't let you...but how can he really stop you? YOU are in control of what you do..DO NOT give him a choice, just end it! If you honestly do not want to be with him, there are restraining orders to keep him away from you.
You are the only person that can honestly end this relationship that is going no where. I truly believe that if someone cheats once, most likely they will cheat again. I wish you luck and I hope this helps a little flowerforyou


Thanks! Yes it does help! I know im the only one who can control what i can and cant do but maybe i dont know what i really want. Yes i do love him and all and would love to be with him but its too soon for me. I need some time. TO be honest though, i was happy when i heard bout him and his wife getting the div but now its like the total opposite. Maybe its cause i know what im doing and its not right but now i am just sad and depressed and feel bad for him.

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Thu 05/01/08 08:34 PM
Him and his wife are actually going thru a divorce now. But i am trying to back out of this mess although i do have feelings for him and vice versa. I just want to be no more than friends but in his opinion...since we have mutal feelings then we should be together cuz it will work out btw us!

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Thu 05/01/08 08:32 PM
I did tell him earlier. Not in though words but I did.

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Thu 05/01/08 08:31 PM


Thanks for ur advice littleike. Hopefully you dont judge me like the rest of them people reading this is doing. Yes we are all humans and do make many mistakes....believe me i am learning from my mistakes!
like i said kasey we all make mistakes and no i dont think bad of you, who am i? i am just older and have lernt, i tho am not perfect and make mistakes, but i dont think your bad or judge you... good luck hun:smile:


Well it looks like ur the first person tonight who hasnt judged me! I knoe everyone has their opinions bout me and my situations but thanks for not judging!

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Thu 05/01/08 08:18 PM

ok - now i'm getting the picture. he needs to know that he is pushing you too hard and you need to try to keep it friendly and light for a while. he needs to know if he keeps pushing you that it will hurt not help your friendship and relationship. it might be very hard for him if he is lonely after his breakup.


Thanks for all ur advice! Yes i know its confusing and complicated....join the club! Lol! anyways, im getting off to go study and get my mind on something positive for a change! Thanks again! Goodnite!

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Thu 05/01/08 08:15 PM
Thanks for ur advice littleike. Hopefully you dont judge me like the rest of them people reading this is doing. Yes we are all humans and do make many mistakes....believe me i am learning from my mistakes!

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Thu 05/01/08 08:12 PM

if he is divorcing then perhaps he should move out and make arrangements with his wife. if divorcing is a drawn out process then once they are separated they can agree to pursue independent lives to a certain extent depending on their circumstances.

if you care for him and he cares for you and you trust each other the rest could be worked out. however, if you have deep serious reservations about him as an eventual life partner then you might find the counseling helpful to work through your feelings.


He has already moved out. He is trying to get me back and come live with him cuz he knows that our feelings are mutal and that things btw us could work out. To me i think its way to fast. I just want to be friends with him although I do love him and that feeling will never go away!

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Thu 05/01/08 08:09 PM
But tech i didnt move to another state because of him. I am orginally from Shreve in the first place. I moved to Texas when I was married then after the divorce i continued to live in Texas til after i gave my 2 weeks notice at work then i was moving back to LA to go back to school. The move back to SHreve was way before I got with him

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Thu 05/01/08 08:07 PM
I know! Life isnt easy! I have figured that part out! Technically though i didnt move all because of him. It all worked out cuz I have been wanting to go back to school and moving to SHreve and going back to LSUS is what i have been wanting to do. I know that running away doesnt solve problems just puts it on hold. I am trying to be strong. I get what ur saying bout if he doesnt respect my decision to back off then maybe he is in it just for a piece of ass. Maybe ur right but who knows. I have told him over and over again that i need space and that i cant do it anymore...being with him. Its just hard cuz he is a good friend to me whether he is married or not married. I dont want to be his "dirty lil secret" but just want to be friends and thats what we are but to him...he wants more...a relationship

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Thu 05/01/08 08:02 PM


Why is it that alot of people are attracted to older, married men? I am one of them! It sucks cuz I have falling for this guy whose married for almost 9yrs. We have been seeing each other for over a yr and a half now. I can actually say that I have deep feelings for him. What should I do?

If you know it and openly admit you are dating a married man........I say Shame on you

I find it quite disgusting.

Well thats ur opinion!!! We all have our own opinions!

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Thu 05/01/08 08:01 PM
What facts did i not tell up front?

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Thu 05/01/08 07:58 PM
I know u are! and i appreciate that! i just wanted to clarify with u that im not just on here with this topic cuz im bored and want to hear myself talk. I really do need the advice and i know that this crap is common and just needed advice.

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Thu 05/01/08 07:54 PM
Nope! I do need advice and am listening! My mind is so confused cuz i have people trying to be smart asses by saying to let the wife join in and then i have others telling me the truth and agree with them. I am trying to get out of this mess that I am in. I even moved to another state to get rid of all this but it doesnt matter. He has found me and keeps coming back and trying to get me back. I just want to be friends with him but i still have deep feelings for him that i need to let go but its hard!

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Thu 05/01/08 07:52 PM
You can think what u want. Everyone else assumes im giving him a piece of ass but Im not. U dont need sex in a relationship to make it work. And i am perfectly happy the way we are. Now after the divorce is final for good and we get together then maybe but for now we are causal friends

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Thu 05/01/08 07:47 PM
I've already backed off espically since I am busy preparing for finals next week. I have given him his space but he keeps coming back to me.

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Thu 05/01/08 07:43 PM
Who said anything about being intimate with him!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! The only thing he has gotten from me was a kiss. So thank u very much.......im not just a piece of ass to him cuz in order to be that i would have to give him ass!!

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Thu 05/01/08 07:38 PM
The divorce is in progress. Down in Texas you have to go thru a waiting period of 60days before its offical and its fixin to reach that 60day mark in bout a week!

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