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Why is it so hard
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Misslibra I feel for you honestly, and as a brother libra I can tell you its not easy being the balancer. as libras we often find ourselves pondering over why, while at the same time trying to figure out how to make it better next time. So heres my advice to you, you are a smart beautifull women dont let time slip by as I have for the past 3 year's. "wich may not seem like much to some but still the point remains" Just remember that he obviously wasnt good enough for YOU not the other way around. and remember were all here for you, whilst we may not be you're prince charming we are you're friends so join us, join the twisted side we have cookies! AND DENTAL yes forgot that dental see very nice teeth hmm yes indeed...*whispers under breath* - now if we only had eye coverage maybe I could see this damn keyboared in the dark >_<- Thank you for your kind words, we Libras seem to analyze and agonize over everything. 3 years is a long time, but one thing you can be thankful for is that you are wise, and still have age on your side. I wish I had been as wise as you @ your age. I feel that time is running out for me. Others may see me as picky, but I am afraid of giving my heart away, only to be rejected again. So, its easier to be here on the computer, instead of taking a chance on love again. Though I am cautiously optimistic, I have a date tomorrow with someone whose profile I read on this site! |
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It is rare of someone your age(your pic gave it away, I can tell, I have a son about your age) to have such maturity. Most people aren't willing to think so much about such important things, they just go along and hope that everything will turn out ok. With age comes the realization that that doesn't happen. I have been in your shoes, I am there now. All I wanted was for my ex-bf to love me, and he didn't. We were together for 4 years, I guess I was stupid in hoping that eventually, he would fall in love with me. I can't go through my life being w/someone who doesn't love me, I can't go through life w/o someone saying those words to me, so I ended our relationship. Now, all I can do is wonder why? Why didn't he love me? What was so terrible about me that he didn't love me after 4 years? I don't have answers, only questions. So, don't despair. You are on the right path-though it may take a while to see the light @ the end of the tunnel.
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HEHE thanks O-o its hard for men, heres another philisophical question for you ladys and gents. This is another thing I have noticed in life 1 when a man breacks up with a women 9 - 10 times his buddys dont really care nor do they even bother to ask him how he feels, he therefor as a male is trained from day one to hide that it might have hurt maybe even have broken his heart. 2 when women are broken up with or break up with the man there friends 9 - 10 times are there for her and help her through it she is therefor trained from day 1 to express her emotions freely and becomes in truth a much stronger person than the x male partner in this way. Why is it that the world is built in such a way, why can we men not just let it flow without constantly worrying we will be seen as gay or a loser. That is so true, and one of the reasons its difficult for men and women to truly communicate, because men are conditioned to believe that's it not ok to express their emotions. It would be wonderful if more men felt the way you do. You are wise beyond your years, if only more men were willing to be so introspective. |
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There is nothing wrong with crying, I cry when I'm happy, I cry when I'm sad. I am where you are now.But Bryan Adams?(Just kidding, trying to evoke a smile!):) Vince Gill is what I listen to, he has a song called "When I Call Your Name", that makes me bawl every single time I hear it.
Thanks for the tip, I will try it next time! |
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Why is it so hard
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Truer words were never written. You are not stupid-many of us feel that way. I know I do. You are not alone in your feelings-know that!!
Can't figure out how to put my reply @ the bottom of a previous post. I know, I'm a tard. |
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Why is it so hard
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Why is it so hard to find some one now days, is it that theres to many people, or is it theres not enough? Why do I become angry when I see happy couples while at the same time I feel like crying. Why when I see a couple kiss do I feel this urge to run and hide and become emberassed because I wish it was me "not so much kissing that girl just in general". Why is it we all come here looking for the one day after day constantly checking our email box when ever we get home from work hoping some will see what inside of us and just want to love us? Why do we all feel so alone now days, and why are we alone? Is it our looks, our personallity, events that have happned that have driven us to hide from the arms of another. Is it the fact we get nearvous when ever we see some one who makes our heart thump, while at the same time being held back by this thought that were not good enough? Is it only me who feels like this or am I just stupid? |
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I'm sorry, I wasn't trying to make it about myself. I was trying to help someone not fall into a cycle of going to bars as a coping mechanism for loneliness by using an example. Just like everyone else. I'm sorry if the advice wasn't appreciated. I shall now ceast and desist. Again, my apologies.
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Yes, as a matter of fact, I read the entire thread before my posts-I'm sorry if my opinion is making someone defensive, that was not my intention. Let me reiterate, I am not a bar basher.And there's nothing wrong with going. I concur with the post about a hobby, I wish there were cows I could tip where I live! 
Who's getting defensive? I thought the whole thing was rather funny. 
Edit: I guess no matter what, some people have to make everything about themselves.
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Yes, as a matter of fact, I read the entire thread before my posts-I'm sorry if my opinion is making someone defensive, that was not my intention. Let me reiterate, I am not a bar basher.And there's nothing wrong with going. I concur with the post about a hobby, I wish there were cows I could tip where I live!
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I'm not a bar basher. I don't have a problem going to a bar. But when you feel compelled to go there every day for 15+ years(ex), then the bottom line is you need to get a life. My ex wanted to be a player, that's why he was there all the time. That's why he got a part time job there. He was obsessed with the place. He still is;he's probably there right now. And my ex said the same thing about his bar, that it was more like Cheers. Yeah, right-every body says that.
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Yeah, that's exactly why I don't go to bars. People don't want to get to know you-they just want to get in your pants. I'm not that kind of a person. Ex boyfriend was though. Worked @ bar, hung out there, his life revolved around it. But he's a player, so there you go. That's why he's the "ex". I'd rather be home alone than around a bunch of people slurring their words, spilling liquor all over themselves, who don't know what day it is. I have higher standards and more respect for myself than that. There are plenty of places to meet folks-shopping @ Walmart, LOL!!(I say that cause that's where I work!)LMAO
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Is it...
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I guess if the reason you're no longer married doesn't involve abuse or infidelity, then I think it may be possible. My ex was an abuser and an alcoholic, so I am civil to him, only because he straightened out his life, and 1 of our kids live with him, but if he died tomorrow, I wouldn't be sad, nor do I regret getting divorced. I'm only sorry I stayed married for 15 years, hoping his family was more important than beer every day. Sorry for the novel!
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