English is not my first language. So I have trouble understanding those whose mother tounge it is.

You are trying to say, "Love is like war: it spare not the brave, but the coward"?

Tell that to 6000 thousand Auschwitz non-survivors, or to the farmers and their families that have been cut down by Child Warriors of the Niger.

You don't have to be brave to die. You can be tortured to death even, whether you are brave or a coward, in both love and war.

Some old sayings in the English language need to be re-visited and be re-approved, or updated, or else examined for truth value and discarded when found to be a false prophesy.