I think that us women have all been there at some time, and horsegirl is right. Take a class or join a social group to help get your mind off of this situation. My ex told me he could never love anyone but me, six months later he was living with the lady who owned property next to us. That hurt! But I took classes and surrounded myself with friends(I wasn't allowed to have friends when I was married), joined a gym, and just kept myself busy. We're here for you, vent if you have to. Time heals.

Can't help but to be human, small twinges of jealousy and regrets that it didn't work out? Just keep smiling (even though your heart is breaking),put on a good show that your "so-called friends" dating your ex doesn't bother you.......and it really shouldn't. Walk on, don't look back, hold your head up high and remember "SMILE"

From experience I have found that "religious" people act like they have some kind of protective barrier around them that entitles them to treat "non-religious" people as inferiors. No big surprise when they try to talk religion to potentional converts that we don't want your brand of religion. But all in all hypocrites have nothing to do with my beliefs.

wow I'm all tired out from just reading all that, think I'll go listen to my best of the Monkees CD

Thinking of you and prayers to your brother.Hope everything went well.

Last Christmas ..Wham

yep,horsegirl My BS meter has malfunctioned a couple of times I now reley on a backup system, called "experience".

Come on girls don't give up,be glad you have high standards and values, and your BS meter is still working.Lots of players and jerks on these sites, but there are decent men on here also. Ya just have to keep your barn boots on and learn to step over the bullsh^*t some like to spread around.

meh.........wiley_cents you must of not heard of the the book Men Are From Mars Women Are From Venus, of course all men are aliens.

Dating at 50+ ? Sometimes it feels like I've been thrown to the wolves............So I've learned to take things slow and not rush into anything. To not "settle". I'd rather be "lonely" and happy than in a bad relationship.

DO you take VISA?....$3.25

I would have to add tfa1957 that that advice is worth more than 5 cents, I'd pay a quarter for it.

Station Agent, good movie

You are so right oldsage we all have our "trigger points", usually for me it's a bag of oreos and a glass of milk, I just lose all control and go bonkers

Can you say anger management? Wow someone offers you advise and you go off on them. Maybe you're not such a nice guy after all?

Thank you polypeasant, I think you understand what I'm trying to get across here. And for those that just don't get it, well then don't complain when nobody writes you back after your "lengthy" letter.

So what's up with these men that contact you with just a "hello" and then tell ya "let's talk" then they want you to email them and tell them about what you're looking for, likes, dislikes etc etc. Personally when I get an email like that I thank them for contacting me but then put them down as to lazy to communicate. By "let's talk" do they mean they want your phone number (no way!). To me that's just lazy to have the woman have to break the ice.Or do they feel that they have so lonely woman out there chasing them that they don't have the time to write a real letter.

Lots of lonely men also, but they tend to feel that having intimate encounters, FWB, FB is the cure-all for their lonliness. It's not. Oh they might not feel so lonely when they have to make doctor visits for the STD they get.

OK, Ladies (and men) when you are contacted by someone on these dating sites and you read their profile and they say things like wanting a LTR ,committed relationship, one-woman man blah blah, etc etc...... How many ( just give a percentage)get right down to what they really expect, like sex, intimate encounters just "friends"? The reason I am asking this is because earlier this week I was reading a relationship advice article and this lady in her sixties was asking about HIV and STD'S because her "boyfriend" refused to wear protection and she was concerned about his seeing other ladies, he quote said "they're lots of lonely ladies out there". I got the impression he felt like he was doing the ladies a favor by being a stud.

Greyhound, SNOWING! Send it my way! I love the snow.Even like driving in it.