There aren't that many that are actually really good in bed.

From my several years of trying to find Mr. right, I have come to the conclusion that there are too many fish in the sea and too many window shoppers. No one wants to stop looking when they find someone they like. There is a lot of dishonesty. It is so time consuming trying to find that one needle in a haystack. I have also learned that when a guy says "I like you a lot and would like to see you again but lets take it slow and be friends first" That means he is not that into you and it is a safe way for him to keep looking while he has you on a string.
I now dread the 1st meeting/interview. But I do it hoping that one day all of this crap will pay off and I will finally have the love of my life.

There is no difference. True love is committed, exclusively to one person with all of your heart. With true love and commitment, you are in it because you want to be in it and be a part of this persons life and hopefully they are feeling the same. If not ...that can hurt.