OK so here is what it really comes down to. The old joke, men are like parking spaces. The best one's are taken and the rest are handicapped. So the solution is simple either double park or quit bitching about having to circle until some one decides she's done with the space you want and then if you can beat the others to the spot you can park for a while.

I've seen most men. I figure it really comes down to share a good one or keep a looser that no one else wanted all to yourself.

Now from the guys perspective. I knew that eventually married life was going to turn into married life. Both sides get busy with the effort of carving out a life. Then one day a young woman comes in and decides she wants the parking space your wife has. She's young and attractive and most importantly she makes you feel like you are the answer to all the world's ills. She looks at you with eyes that don't harbor the resentment of last nights struggle over how long little johnny should be grounded, or how to juggle the finances to cover all of the surprises of the month. No her eyes sparkle with hope and promise and a little naughty delight. A man is only a man and as you can tell from the news and from most of your friends eventually that makes him get stupid and believe that this is really the one. So he gets caught ruins his life and his wife's life. Leaves their kid in a broken home. All because he didn't realize that after 5 years this woman would be in the same place as his ex-wife.

How much better if everyone is honest. There is no deception. The new person breaths life into the family as a whole. Who knows maybe the new person even helps relieve some of the stress in the home and rekindles passion for all. Passion waxes and wains, it is commitment and dedication that gets families through the hard time until passion can rise again.

But most American women are conditioned by cultural pressures reinforced by religious/media/legal pressures to be doggedly committed to a system that leaves half of them divorced many of them multiple times and leaves most of them raising children with out fathers in the home. Suppose I would normally call it greedy but considering all it really brings is misery greed just doesn't seem to fit.