To discriminate against scars to akin to any other sort of discrimination. We have them, we are human. Nuff said.

Using age as a judgement to whom you get involved with is not different than race, sex, religion, creed, etc. It is just another set of rose colored glasses. Look through them if you wish, but you will probably loose out on a lot on neat people in the world.

This is a simple insight about dating after divorce as has been me recent experience. Recently divorced folks might feel like they won;t find someone again, or their broken, etc. Not so, you just need to heal whatever hurts and realize that if you really want to be with someone again you will.

For those of us who have been divorcved it is more than the legal stuff and paperwork. Clean or messy, you are left emotionally tired out and with time, thinking about finding someone else.

Firstly, congratulate yourself for gettign to the dating stage again. That is a huge emotional step up for your life. Patting yourself on the back for every step forward or backward from here is important for your well-being.

So you've written a personal ad. Should I mention that I just got divorced and I am maybe a little scared or unwary about the whole dating thing?

Answer: Yes. Include that if you choose to do so. Part of being confident is being honest. You cheat yourself out of your feelings if you hide your past from people. I'm not saying go running through the street telling everyone, but be truthful about where you are emotionally. It will make things hopefully go smoother when you meet someone new.

Either you met someone off-line or you just got some replies to your ad. Again, that pat on the back, smile, it feels good.
Take the time that you need to get to know them. If you're up to it, ask them about their feelings that you just got out of a marriage. You would be suprised at the number of people that really don't mind talking about it after awhile.

Yay! You talked, met, maybe you hit it off. Looking back from where you've come is quitethe feat. Pat that back, life is good.