Born in Maryland, raised in NC, Partied in Va., Went to college in Fla. and somehow landed here just outside in Memphis, Tn.

No....I've gone too far down that rabbit trail as it is...

Suffice to say, I think my answer has been misunderstood.......and I probably overstated what I DID mean....

....could be...

It sort of goes hand in hand with the discussion on the other board...everyone goes into a relationship with some amount of preconceived notions; some concern over past pains being repeated. Granted, in that moment, they probably aren't recognized as such;[fear], but an equivalent tension exists. I'm merely stating, albeit a little complicated, that there is a BIG release when a kiss occurs. A large part of the "tension" is more likely anticipation, but "what if's" tend to linger in the subconscious, as evidenced by the other discussion...................anyway, I liked the "slobber, tongue, lips, teeth, etc." answer...

That is awesome....hilarious man...

"What's in a kiss"...hmmmm...every pent up fear of what might go wrong, every dream about what might go right, released in one brief second of bliss.............................unless she's just a really bad kisser...

Brilliant

Why would you say something like that?....even joking...None of us are a mistake, NONE of us...

Both

What McDonald's are YOU talking about?!

I won't....I just hope people can take me the same way. I'm opinionated to be sure, but I'm not some raving, ranting lunatic. I just speak my mind......That's what a forum is for...

....and it appears the 'other opinion' makes too many generalizations about men....so what's the point exactly? Generalizations are generalizations. People who believe those generalizations about everyone they meet are doomed to fail in their efforts to meet someone. No one wants to have to live down the reputation of their predecessor, and yet, some of the comments made certainly suggest that a man in his forties is starting behind the eight-ball with some women. It's refreshing to know that not all women out there are so narrow-minded. Having said that i do realize that not every comment on here was made in malice. As far as her responses; [name-calling]; while unwarranted, it seemed to me to be borne of frustration she felt on behalf of her older friends...We're all human. Probably if we all looked more at our own problems first, we would not only avoid those with unappealing character, but we wouldn't attract them either.

that's ok, im trying to unload the backhoe i used to dig my holes with...

....sounded more like an opinion to me. You don't HAVE to feel insulted by her opinion if you choose not to be.......maybe we can call it a 'general'opinion...

AMEN...........PREACH!!

Thanks.....hope i can stand up under the scrutiny. i must say that, having looked back and re-read some of the commentary; im looking for a younger woman....younger than me. i set my age range based on what i gathered from female friends of mine. i hope that doesn't make me some creepy, 'midlife thing' kind of guy, afterall, my range does go up into the 40's......and i would never message a twenty-something unless she initiated it. it would be a one in a million shot to find a good match with such a large age difference.

i edited the comment you commented on, by the way...

whoah......i just started on this site last night...responded last night and today....im doing the best i can

i just don't want anyone judging me before having gotten to know who i am. i am an individual; a unique, one of a kind individual. And while there are certain constants among men my age in this culture, i like to think that im a great catch; the preverbial 'diamond in the rough'. Truth be told, we ALL have our issues/problems, regardless of gender. Having said that,i do understand that a lot of guys my age never grew up. Some people are determined to 'play' as long as they think they can get away with it. The trick is to make an early recognition and avoid them, no matter how physically appealing they may be. Another idea would be to quit looking for your 'winners' at the 'losers lounge' [bars]...This is kind of a new and scary venue for me to find someone, as much as it is for others. To be sure, some of those losers will stumble onto this site, but we are a bit isolated on here. As desperate as we may think being on here is,we have added insulation from people with unappealing characteristics. Be sure before you meet or give out information you may wish you hadn't later. Take advantage of what this venue offers without taking advantage of others