To each their own. I dont go out of my way to look for negatives. There is to much of that, that goes on. I respect those that have different views than me, welcome the debate. Maybe another view will alter my view, maybe my view will alter theirs. Who knows. Just because I think there is beauty in everything doesn't mean others do. There are horrendous acts by people, unforgiveable acts that have altered lives, the world, scarred millions.But from those horrendous unforgettable unforgiveable events there were acts of mercy, charity, bravery, boldness, an attempt to right a wrong to protect others so that it never happens again, so on and so on. Lessons.

Fixed! I added the "".

On a completely OT sidenote? The always cracks me up. I dont know why.

I am quoting him, using his terms. I dont think anyone is all around ugly. That was my mistake for not using the " around "ugly on the outside and the inside" I will try to be more clear when I am expressing my opinion. Apologies.

Everyone has beauty to offer. As I said, for me it is the way you look at it. A simple smile holds beauty and how contagious is that? Everyone laughs. There is beauty in laughter. Someone holds the door open for someone..how beautiful is that one simple kind act? So yes, even those that are "ugly on the outside and the inside" can be beautiful too. It is all in your perception. If you are looking for just the ugly, you will find it. If you are looking for the beauty you will find it.

OMG I would die if I was there. My snorts come out when I laugh at something that I didnt expect to laugh so much at. Then I blush. laugh at myself, snort again. So being there would be fun, and my sides and face would hurt but wow would my face be so red.

I tend to be the type of person that goes against the tide. I am fine with that. You are not alone in your thinking, you are right. I can just wish it wasn't so. There are so many risks in the world today. You take a risk crossing the street, you take a risk eating out, you take risks in your job, political stances..There are a lot of things we take risks on. Out of all of them I feel that love is the one worth the biggest risk. So I would say to you Navy and anyone out there that feels that way. You are beautiful and worth getting to know. Don't give up hope just because of the "general population" and don't let them make you feel awful. There is power in knowing yourself, loving yourself. I have insecurities. My insecurities don't lie so much with my looks anymore but how I see myself. I see myself as someone not worth the time. A waste of air at times. I work on this because I want better for me. I go to therapy and I work on this. I do volunteer work at the SPCA, and Habitat for Humanity because I need to prove to myself that I am not a waste of air. I am worth it. That is my biggest insecurity. I am laying this all out here for all to see, judge or what not because I have been taught by my therapist and by my experiences that we have the power to control how others make us feel. We are okay to have faults. We are human. There is no perfect package out there and that is okay. I have faith that one day, despite my faults that I will find that special someone, even when I say I wont(cause there are times I say I will never find my special someone, but I never believe it). Till then I adventure, embrace my life and myself.

Those that say someone is not beautiful I have found are the ones that find themselves ugly so they need to put down others to feel better and need to go to hell...maybe therapy..which at times can be a form of hell. ;)

ANYWAY, I hope this post doesn't offend anyone. It was not my intention. Apologies if it does.

You are such a bada**! Way ubertough. *nods* Thanks for repairing that for me. I would hate to have my mistake harm your rep.LOL

ROFL! *hugs the bulldog* I know this is OT but you are just awesome. I can't imagine anyone blocking you because you are so sweet.

Spenzer, I am sorry that you are getting the jerks. Do what I am doing. I hang out in the forums. I have met a lot of super awesome people and the forums do add a bit of brightness to my day. Soon the jerks will pass and the awesome people you are looking for will come through. Don't let the jerks let you lose hope.

ROFL..was it bad that reading those words struck fear into my heart? LOL. Okay, I snorted with that laugh..that was so unattractive...

I think everyone is beautiful. I stand strong by that because my definition of beauty is not the standard definition. What makes a person beautiful to me is their heart and soul. Are they real? Do they enjoy life? How do they treat others?

I have met many beautiful on the outside women and men but they have an ugly heart? They are unattractive to me.

So you can be beautiful on the inside but not on the outside and still be able to take away someone's breath. You can be beautiful on the outside but make a person avoid you with a ten foot pole.

There is beauty in everything if you take enough care to look.

OOOOOOH now this is one that I know quite a bit about. So where to start. OKAY! My first Chef/mentor..he was teaching me some of his sauces. I make great sauces and I owe it to him. If they weren't perfect he would dump the sauce on me and throw the pan across the kitchen. Or just launch the pan across the kitchen. Chefs and kitchens can get rather intense. More so with the old school chefs not so much the new chefs. But he did it because he expected perfection for me and would not settle for anything less because the patrons who are paying to eat our food only deserves perfection.

Then we have my third chef/mentor. He was mentored by Chef Rubuchon. He would get in my face yell until he was red and spitting while I was cooking. It helped me believe it or not. It helped me stay focused when chaos around me is erupting, and again taught me that patrons deserve perfection.

I have worked with countless great chefs that did temper tantrums and it was because I was not living up to my potential. In the kitchen it is used as a motivator.

We as a people are never perfect but because of these chefs and their professional temper tantrums, my food is perfect, my plating is perfect. Now if you ask me if I would ever do this to those I train, teach and motivate. No. That kind of motivation is old school and not needed. I have trained line cooks that have gone onto becoming great chefs and I have done it without throwing temper tantrums but still maintaining the intensity, and the passion needed to run a kitchen.

I can't text and walk.

Fine is something I so have to agree with. See, I have it bad because in most case when the women I have dated used that word it usually sets me off in a panic and I start retracing every single thing I did and said that lead to the use of the word "fine" Because being a woman I know "fine" is never "fine" it is bad..very very bad and it means I screwed up on something. Hehe...you ever want to see something funny? Befriend a lesbian..get a nice close relationship and then use the word "fine" You will see us start to literally run around in small circles in our head as we try to figure it out...which usually leads to us paying for everything..stumbling over our words and going to defcom 5. You might even hear sirens and "maydays" coming out of our watches. *nods* I have yet to use the word fine.

My danger word is "okay" I am very very chatty. When I drop to one word. Yeah...there is something wrong.

yay! I wasn't removed *runs amuck now* Amuck amuck amuck amuck!

mmm naps......Damnit..now I want one.

I just wanted to jump on and say I am glad things are better for you. I don't know you except for the posts that I have read. *over the internet hugs* I think it is super neat that you are so close to some what seems to be really fantastic people.

*awkward pause* Okay then! I am off to trivia night!

I think if we were being truley honest with ourselves, there are times we all have insecurities. It is part of human nature. I try not to care about what other's think of me. I live a good life, try to be the best person I can be. But if I had a bad hair day? I cringe and go "oh well f***" I think that there are parts of us we try to improve on that is built on our own insecurities. For example...I use to be 330lbs, size 42. Now I am 170 and between a 10 and 12. It was my insecurities about my weight and caring about my looks, wanting to be able to attract others that caused me to work out to lose that weight.

This is my opinion and just being honest. I have a hard time believing that everyone here doesn't have any insecurities. Also you can have confidence in yourself and still have insecurities. I think it is just important that you don't let those insecurities control your decisions but work on getting rid of them. Bettering yourself.

Hope that makes sense.

I also agree that everyone is beautiful.

Thanks! I can handle the passer-bys thinking they are passer-bys. I was just worried that my profile was basically saying "play me" with a great big ole target on my back.

The best kiss...

Hrmmm..There was this woman I was dating. She took my breath away. I remember I was terrified to kiss her, wanted to. Just thinking about it, I had felt it.

She pulled me in a hug, we hugged. Stroked her back, her hands went into my hair. She kissed my cheek, then my eye lids, then my nose, my chin. Just soft pecks. Eskimoed me. I smiled and then she kissed me. It started off slow, soft, exploring, then slowly went deeper, and just when I felt like my whole body was going to catch on fire. We parted with a small chaste kiss, another lingering hug and I wished her a good night.

I think I did well though because she was leaning against the wall when I left. Sad to say we didnt work out, but that was the best kiss I have ever recieved. Such soft lips.

I would think it would be important to me..the big picture. Same interests? I think having different interests adds, and allows more sharing..but I like to have a nice quality of life. Not financially...but enjoying the beauty of life and going out and having adventures, that kind of quality. That kind of lifestyle match up is important. I can't be with someone that doesn't find joy in things cause there are so many things to find joy from.

Violence is something that I don't do or let me be on the recieving end of. But I do think when you make a mistake and you dont know it, I want to be told so that way I dont make that mistake anymore and I grow from that. I am open to that. I am not perfect, not anywhere close to being perfect but I want to get to be the best person I can be. I can sometimes be blinde when it comes to my imperfections so I appreciate being told them. If that makes sense.