bearfan, wow I hear ya!! What the heck is wrong with guys. Want a piece of the cookie, but not the whole box! hehe. I'm going through basically the same thing, except I think this boy I'm talking to is just plain out confused and retarded

But anyway, I'm over it!

Whats up Josh, can't sleep either? My ass should be in bed right now, 6 am is going to come really early!! I'm such an insomniac, 1:13 and still wide awake

Welcome silver...

give us time, some of us around here are slowpokes

You'll enjoy it here, have fun!

Hey Alex, welcome to JSH!

Hellooooooo youngsters

22 here... 23 in December

What's everyone up to? I'm bored

The pleasure is all mine

you have a beautiful way with words

<--- just turned on hold on loosely...

haha good idea... good song

Oh and, forget that guy. Although I think you may have come on too strong asking for a phone call everyday. If he doesnt wanna give his woman what she wants then move on sista

I am so sorry about your husbands passing

Welcome to JSH...I'm pretty new as well, but am really enjoying it so far. Just post on the forums and you will meet tons of great people! Nothing to be nervous about, everyones great!

hilarious

Yeah alcoholism definately is no joke. My dad puts back rum like water, it's rediculous. But I do love a drink on the weekends, nothing better than a couple of drinks after a busy week at work

Justyn - thanks, i know you got my back
and stop trying to deny that you think im absolutely amazing!! You just need to be honest with yourself

Bluewaterphil - I would think after 2 years things would be clear as well. But it has just been recently that either of us even thought of dating or hanging out. We've always just been friends. Pretty much just aquaintances at work for the first year. But I definately wouldn't push comittment. I don't like looking like one of those obsessed girls that can't let go. So I'm definately just going to let things happen naturally.

TM - Like I said before, I sincerely appreciated everything you've said and advised. I just sometimes get defensive, and felt like you may have misunderstood some of what the situation was as far as my daughter being involved etc. So, thank you for all of your advice and I have taken a lot of it to consideration, and it helped me blow him off this weekend so I could concentrate on myself and being with my daughter. So, please keep giving any advice you have, I appreciate everyones words

Yeah I think he's enjoying it. He's a crazy alcoholic, so he makes new friends everywhere he goes haha every day i turn more and more into my father.. scary

thanks for my welcomes

Oh gosh...the Rams...

Gotta love em though.

I'm actually in Troy, MO...which about an hour away from STL. I've always lived in St. Charles MO, just recently moved to the sticks...hehe.

MsTeddy... I don't know if I can completely agree with you. And I'm going to try to reply without sounding ignorant and naieve. I should have threw up the okay nice to know you, goodbye flag when he said he couldn't handle the responsibility of a child at the moment. But, on the other hand, we've been friends for 2 years. I never had any feelings for him until recently. So when he told me he was interested in me but didn't think he could handle the responsibility of a child, I wasn't going to just stop being friends with him. So we continued to hang out. And then that's when the "hook up" came about.

And, everyone keeps saying for the sake my child, or I'm involving her in this, etc. She is in no way involved at the moment. She has not met him, she doesn't know mommy is hanging out with a guy. She is 2, she goes to her fathers every other weekend and I do what I do. And if by some odd crazy chance, this guy and I became an item and he decided he wanted to try it out. I have confidence that he would be great with her. I don't know first hand because he has not met her, I don't believe in bringing guys into my daughters life, I only think that would confuse her. But I have seen him interact with children, he's very close with his nephews, and he's great. I just think with his career and age, he doesn't feel ready for that in his life. So, overall, this is not affecting my daughter one bit. It only affects him and I.

S1owhand thanks for the comment. I know theres plenty of good guys who are ready to jump in and be great to me and my child. I just don't ever end up meeting them. Guess I'll keep looking

I agree Dragoness...thanks for the comment I think as a lot of people posted...I was in denial of what he said. Girls will be girls, we always convince our minds of whatever we want to think is true lol. But, we'll see what happens, and try to not let my feelings get attatched.

Oops sorry didn't see your post till today bearfan St. Louis area... my dad lives in the KC Area...he just moved there about a year ago b/c of STL's Ford Plant shutting down. Now he works at KCs Ford plant. In the Liberty area I believe. I go visit a lot there, it's always good fun

Okay guys...simmer down...first of all, I agree with a little of what everyone is saying. Maybe I should've used a better term than "booty call". But basically that is what it is. To him, I am a girl who he doesn't have a desire to be in a relationship with, but feels it's okay to give me a call to hang out and "hook up". So, on that note, it would be a booty call. But - I'm not dissing him for that, I'm an adult, if I choose to respond to that call, I know what I'm getting myself into. Now...TelephoneMan...I took everything you said in, and think you have a lot of good points. But you struck a tiny nerve about my daughter. I am not running around with this guy who "hates" kids and not thinking any about her. And let me just say, he does not "hate" kids(hate is a very strong word, theres a difference between hating and not being ready). He doesn't want the responsibility of one. Which MikeCom...when I had the conversation with this guy, about where we stood, and he said he couldnt handle that responsibility etc. I told him she was MY responsibility and no one elses. I would never make her anyone elses. So back to TM - you can't help who you develop feelings for, just because I became interested in a guy I work with does not mean I'm socially retarded I'm not going to spend too much time defending myself on this one, because I have a feeling it will be pointless, but him and I are the same age...we have mutual friends outside of work, and ending up become friends outside of work. And one thing led to another. I get out plenty - as much as I can being a mother. So, that's that.

So anyway, if anyone would like an update on what is going on...I only got together with him the one time, and yes it was not the best choice, but people do stupid things on a daily basis. However, we have remained friends, even better now than before, and he's really been there for me right now with some problems that have arised recently. I haven't brought up anything to him again about what this and that meant. I'm going to let things happen naturally. He is the one missing out in the end. So if he is by chance confused and maybe changing his mind, then great, if not we will be friends and I'm okay with that also...and I will meet the guy who is right for me.

That's awesome...I like it. Sounds 100% like me, I used to be completely shy. Now, as I've matured, I am more comfortable with myself and have stopped caring...which has helped me shed my "cloak of shyness"...so I definately can relate. I dig it