I agree with one of the commments that you received from "Totage" that you should really give yourself time to heal otherwise the next female that you meet is going to be like a rebound. I am a 45 yr young single mother so I know how hard it can be. I have four, however, two of mine are grown and on their own and the other two are home with me. I put most of my time into them and when I need alone time I go to the movies by myself or I go out to eat by myself. You have to take some "ME" time and take time to love yourself. Then when you have healed, find a good babysitter that you can trust and do something for yourself. And when u least expect it that woman that is just right for you will show up.....I am waiting for my "Mr. Right" to show up and I don't believe that shivvery is dead. There is someone out there for you that you deserve. Just hold on and have faith and trust God!!!