Hey! I never got that!

The dating sites are just a way of meeting people. Then you find out what they are like and if you like them in person.

I even didn't went out 5 miles.

Physically or mentally ???

@ Klc, Yeah i get what you're saying. lol. I didn't mean any of the men in our forums aren't good men, i was meaning newbies. No worries :)


@Skywisper, Are you sure she's only after money? Really?

Anyone who sends out emails on here first has experienced not getting some replies. It happens to us all. You just have to be able to move on and contact other people.

The forums are a bit different. There are all different kinds of people here to interact with. That's the best part. You just have to learn not to take things personally, as most of the time it isn't personal.

I actually wonder if any "good guys" go on dating sites. I'm not necessarily looking for one. I just wondered. A "good-but-occasionally-bad" will do for me. I can't see how i'll ever bump into a nice guy.

Martin, you are a very sweet guy with a sensitive soul. The people here are pretty awesome. But everybody may have an off day, we are all human after all, and be mad, sad or just bummed out. Please try not to take it too personally. There are some here that will question you and point things out, trying to help. You must be able to accept this and use it or not. I got my feelings hurt a couple of times at first, but I think I understand much better now.

As to the e-mails you send, some will respond some won't. No way to tell, but don't get discouraged. I listen to people here and on another site and online dating is rather brutal.

Just be who you are, not everyone will like you and that's OK. So many people do, and there are more to come.

hey bro, i posted on one of your threads about being alone on christmas and you totally ignored the post

When I first joined here,,it was called Just say Hi..and NOT very many members on it at all...but,,I searched through all the ladies on here then,,and found one who was Beautiful to me,,she even had a dolls name,,,,lol,,anyway,,I sent her an email telling her SHE was in my mind the BEST looking lady on here,,,
SHE,,NEVER responded back...
Four months later here,,I had become a very likible member and in the forums all the time with a bunch of others who everyone thought was funny and popular on the forums...
NOW,,she THEN wrote me after talking with me in some posts,,and I asked her about that old email,,and IF she remembered getting THAT from me then,,,,NO,,SHE said she couldn't recall...?
But,,YES,,,Its FUNNY how others respond to emails and also,,YES,,I have written them BOOKS just to get back,,one small sentence..
SO NOW,,I TRY and give them always short sentences,,until I see they give me more of them in type,,,,

you never say I'm beautiful

Martin, there are solicitors - agents for foreign matchmaking services - who patrol dating sites looking for people to match clients with. They often ask a lot of questions. That's because they are filling out a profile of you on their own dating/matchmaking site.

Others are scammers just looking to gain personal info in a roundabout way, hoping you don't pick up on it.

And then there are the people who just aren't very comfortable talking about themselves. It can make holding a conversation a lot like pulling teeth. Most people don't like others who only talk about themselves. Yet what choice does one have when the other person rarely says much about themselves despite coaxing? This is why, despite a soft spot for them, I know that shy women just aren't a good match for me. I have a difficult enough time with social interaction without having to take the entire burden of conversation upon myself.

It could be that you are doing something wrong too. You might need to learn a few new tricks. However, without reading a 'typical' e-mail you might send a woman, we really can't judge that.

In any case, I wouldn't give up on the Forums. Sure, people are going to disagree with you. Singmesweet and I have had a few jousts in the Forums. One thing she made clear is that her questions and criticisms aren't merely disagreement. She's trying to help in her own - through observation, questioning, and illuminating bitter truths. In other words, she attempts to get one to examine himself deeper. That's her way, and it doesn't fit everyone. Others are going to be the same way, but not everyone. And sometimes people read into stuff too much as well.

(Sorry Singmesweet....I was just using our forum experiences as an example.)

So, relax man. These things are going to happen in the forums. It's only personal if you allow it to become so.