Crystal lives in Zeeland in the Netherlands.

First, I don't see Crystal as being feminist... not by the definition of what a feminist is in America, hahaha!

Anyways, I can relate to what you said Stone, I don't fit into that group either. I'm more of an evolved traditionist if there is such a thing, lol.

I believe women's lib has helped in a lot of ways... but it has also hurt us in so many ways... mostly when it comes to relationships with men and others as well.

I prefer to get in touch with those innate/primal instincts and go from there.

I lived in the Florida Keys when I joined. The lifestyle of most who lived there wasn't my kind of thing, so that's how I ended up in Mingle.

Nice to hear you are reading, sorry to hear you interpret it that way.
I think I am one (of the few) who does see both sides of the fence because I took the time and effort to study it (based on Jungian psychology on men & woman).
I understand you interpret my postings that way, I've also been in a real bad place, I know what abuse is like. For me that was the very reason I developed an interest in this subject material and began perusing it.

Most men much like women have a fragile ego and this fear of rejection. I would rather be rejected from the start then 20 some years later. If a man or woman is empowered, he or she will not let that hold them back.
Only a few men are empowered enough to approach a woman without having gotten a sign from her that she's into him. Same is true for the few woman who are empowered enough to approach a man without some sign from him that he is into her. To me this needs to change.

The way I see it, if a man has a place to live, then the woman needs to go out there and check it out. Kick the tires so to speak. Then if the woman is still into him, kick his tires.

If a woman has a place to live, then the man needs to go out there and check it out. Kick the tires so to speak. Then if the man is still interested in the woman, kick her tires.

The idea we can get to know each other on the internet is bull-shid to me. It is just an internet construct. Words have a funny way of meaning different things to different people.

What really pisses me off is when after spending hours and hours communicating with what I think is a woman is really a man, getting your information and attempting to get some money from you.

You're welcome! I'm here until the end of May... I found a great way to travel through seasonal work that includes housing

And yes... Brrrrrr, lol. For the most part it's a dryer cold so isn't as bothersome as some places, but it's a very windy area so that makes it feel a lot colder.

Women can be too subtle, but you'd need context to say whether it requires looking at or not.
Thing is, us women can read between the lines. We pick up on vibes as we are such intuitive beings (=feminine quality, when empowered this is our strength!)
So in communication with other women we are what men call subtle. We don't have to be direct, blunt or anything, the other knows exactly what we mean.
ALSO when it's not nice btw. Jealousy for instance. A woman can sense that a mile away, even in her best friend.
So the way we communicate basically hinges on the concept of our intuition, that the other will know what you mean.

In contact with a man this can be a problem because he will not get it. Men are not subtle, they're direct. Not by choice, but because of how they're wired.
That's why your partner won't get it when you give hint after hint. Another woman would've gotten it right away, most men won't.
Can lead to huge rows:
Woman: "I've told you a thousand times to XYZ!!! You never listen to me!!"
Man: WTF are you talking about? You NEVER told me?!

BOTH are right... in their own way, hihi.
And BOTH will have to learn this and accommodate the other as it's a difference in man & woman, how we're wired differently.
So we will have to remember and be more direct, man will have to pay closer attention.
Sounds tiring, but I think it goes by itself when a couple truly loves each other as then they care enough to want to understand one another. They'll also spend more quality time together and so on.
I think that unfortunately in most cases people get in a rut and kind of lose track of what the other is like, begin judging them as opposed to wanting to understand them and so on.

So women too subtle, possibly, depends on context. And it's not too subtle really, only in a man's perception, not in woman's perception as women get it perfectly.
UNDERSTANDING this concept could make a HUGE difference to people's love lives.
Now we're still at the point that everyone is judging the other as opposed to thinking about "Why would that be?"
And oddly enough it all goes right back to self-esteem problems: Men not daring to chase, women not daring to open up and be vulnerable (AND not being used to this anymore as our society is masculine).

It IS a huge problem, but only as long as people don't understand these things. You cannot change it, thousands of years of primal instinct aren't gonna go anywhere. It's part of our make-up. If it'd change, we wouldn't be human beings anymore but a different species.
Meaning we'll have to learn to deal with it in a healthy way, the way it was meant to be, like we did a long long time ago, before men became the dominant gender.
All it takes to solve -and for people to have their chances at a happy love life sky-rocket-, is the willingness to work on personal issues AND understanding how the other gender is wired WITH RESPECT, not from judgement and a male-superiority complex, which unfortunately is still very much alive.

I'll leave it at that, don't think anyone is reading this anymore, except for you, haha.


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