good point..never thought about it like that! Its a win win..for me

thank you Abracadabra
im new to the whole chat thing..i like it! techically im a bit challenged though..could u tell me how to us the quote feature

hey all
thought id jump right into the frying pan...an old guy with a young red head would be fun for him but would he want her to balance his cheque book...a bad boy biker type could be fun for awhile but would you want him to babysit your kids. pick and choice for the night not the forever!

hey all
just an opinion...separating after 23yrs of marriage was a real eye opener in that i realized i dont NEED a forever person. i like my own company,my friends and my kids but also SOMETIMES want a strong arm around my waist. i think being mature means being real with life just find a compatable person and forget the fairy tale prince.i now want to cultivate relationships that are are mutually gratifying and mutually separarate reguardless of age difference. does that make sense to anyone?

the point was...i as a non believer, also dont believe in sins or the word sin to describle ones actions. i do believe in evil and karma. i dont fear hell and dont dream of heaven. i believe in goodness of heart and spirit. i do think there is a scale for actions or sins if you will. whether i believe in god or not doesnt mean that i dont have forgiveness in my heart. could i forgive a petty thief..sure...a white liar...sure...even a random act of cruelty...probably. a child predator...never...a torturer of others..never...a person who commits incest...never. i know in my own heart what is good and evil...i dont need a god to forgive anyone for me...i have a mind and a heart for that. if by chance im wrong and i go to hell for believing in righteousness without faith then at least in my own heart i can feel good about it. not trying to be flip with you cowboyGH but my beliefs are as real to me as yours are to you. in the end i truely believe that karma rules and i think you and your god carry good karma.

my half brother is also my half cousin...go figure!

esperanza79
i think most of us kiss a few frogs before we find a prince...the trick is to learn from each one and then let it go without carrying that baggage to the next one.its a hard thing to do but i think more women pull it off than men. a lot of women in one relationship pay for the sins of the woman in the last relationship. guys are fools in that sense...they can ruin something good NOW by not letting go of what WAS! TRUE OR NOT?

not believing in god is only a sin if you are a believer. one doesnt need to believe in god to have a compassionate heart..a giving nature..goodness of being...a conscience. these are choices we make to perpetuate good for all. so one lives a life of destruction of others, fully knowing about religion and the bible, and then decides at the last minute to FIND god and be forgiven....does that soul get to go to the same heaven as mother theresa. i think NOT

not an expert on relationships by any means but i wasted 14years with a man that put himself first always. whether it was work..play..friends...even our daughter it was his way. went to councelling,talked until i was blue in the face but in the end he was always in control and always right. not a nice way to live and not all relationships can be saved.hell.. even a rat knows when to jump ship..time is precious dont waste on a fool

we ARE all equals as clean slates as flesh only but its our deeds...our actions...our thoughts...our hearts that tip the scales.i do not believe that the molester is equal to the child..that the murderer is equal to the dead...the liar is equal to the truth sayer.i believe that evil doers DO have an equal right to life but in thier deeds..do not always deserve to live

the word WILL has various meanings..she will find someone else in time if she WILLS herself to move on. its when you try to hang on to what WAS that keeps you from what could be. its amazing what a little time and clear thinking can do. she and her children deserve better. he deserves to spend his old age with his brother.

we start out as equals when we are born but its our decisions after that that separate us into different so called levels. a theif is not equal to a nun...a rapist is not equal to a law abiding person..a murderer is not equal to a doctor..the only ones who are equal are the people who live thier lives with dignity and integrity. an athiest and a religious person are also equals if they live there lives with dignity and integrity. One does not need to believe in god to live a good life...to be equal to the believers.

she should be angry and hurt...if he can give into his brothers pressure to spend time over her, then she needs to open her eyes to the fact that she and the kids are Not #1 to him. If thats the case..then run girl..dont waste your youth on him. You WILL find someone else who REALLY loves you

It takes two to make a relationship work especially during the tough times. she can try to make it better be changing her attitude maybe but he needs to figure out a way to give a little more of himself too. It is the little things that count the most...a surprise call mid day...dropping of an iced cap...a text kiss etc. a little aknowledgement goes a long way

life isnt always black and white....its the grey areas that can drag a relationship down even if you are seriously commited

i hate to burst bubbles out there but he wont have anything tocome back to. i have just resently mutually separated from my husband of 23 years and we still love and respect each other but we are not IN LOVE anymore. so much time at work is nessesary these days to keep a family going and I totally understand both sides of this story but niether one of these people can feel it slipping away yet. You just wake up one morning and its gone.

you know its time when he cant make you cry anymore

I understand why older men want young women. They are fresh and sweet. Beautiful and soft. Energetic and spontanious. These girls take them back to their youths. I get it! Young men are smooth and sweet. Clear eyed and focused. Viral and amazing. Yes yes a young man occationally would be fun . That right there
is the difference bettween older men and older women!! We just want to have fun....men need to be validated and have their ego's boosted. Not bashing.. Just an observation:)

For the right woman at the right time for an occational tryst. WOW...how fun would that be!!!