meh, I give up.

I can understand, it to a point, but in the end, it just makes no sense, and it really makes me feel differently about myself as a person, and a friend, when she says something about me, and how she feels about me, and what she wants in life, but then her actions show completly the opposite....

No but it deffinatly got me to laugh a little bit...

now this i can understand... but what i dont understand is when you break up, and you see everything so clearly, why go back to again, sure he can say it will be different... but the fourth time down the road...??? how many times does it take?

even her son sees it as messed up.
he said to her the other day... "I dont get it mom, your break up and get back with shawn, and then break up and get back, and then break up and get back, but you just broke up with jeff?"

that really hit her pretty hard, but not enough apparently..

and then theres the fact she says she still loves and cares for me, and loves me more than she will ever love him, but "differently...." and then she says some crap like she wants me to wait for her to figure out what she wants....

No its not a matter of whining, but thank you...

Its just a matter, of why they tell you one thing, and then go and do the opposite?

The things she would tell me, and all the crying she would do...because of the way he makes her feel... about her self, and the choices she is making...

and yeah she does need therapy, she takes anti-depressants, but she doesnt see anyone for help, and they arent really working, and then on top of that she take birth control, and hasnt told her doctor, so im sure that the two are not working well together... but that is all besides the point...

I really know this girl really well, and in the last 3 months, she has become a different person...

and i just dont understand...

Hello everyone,Im very new here, and just wanted to post a topic, and see what the reasons are...

Why is it that women, who are good natured, sweet, and caring, seem to go for the guy who is a jerk, a d-bag (pardon the language) and generaly not good for them?

I ask because I really truly want to know..

My ex left me, saying she didnt know what she wanted, and that she needed time on her own to figure it out. we were and still are best friends.. and she would come and talk to me about things that bothered her, and on her mind, necause she knows she can come to me, and Ill never judge or think differently no matter what anyone says..

she eneded up meeting some new guy, that she was introduced to by her friend. She would come crying to me about how he hurts her feelings, is brash, and a d-bag.. and that he makes her feel like crap, and bad about heself and making bad choices, spending time with him, and not any with her son, because he doesnt want her son, or her baggage.. then they break up, and she says she was crazy... and then he does some stupid, Im sorry, I miss you, I dont know what i was thinking speech, Ill change, and she goes back.. and then it all happens again, and again, and again... this last time, it was more than a few days it was almost 2 weeks, and we were able to hang out again as friends (he doesnt want her to have anything to do with me) and I didnt miss my best friend anymore... and she was truly down with him, told him she wished she never met him.. and then procceded to point out everything that was horrible, and bad for her about him, and them... but then once again he come with an email, and some phone calls, and again she goes back to him..


I just dont get it? what is it?

I asked her if I need to be like that and maybe Ill find someone and be happy... and she told me "no dont!" that "I am special, and the way I look at life, and love, and sex (I cont seperate love from sex, and have only ever been with the two people I have fellen in love with by choice...) makes me unuiqe..."
So, why is it then, that every whare i look, I see women that choose the opposite of what they say they want... and then arent happy...

Any insight?