fault: responsibility for an accident or misfortune.

responsibility: the state or fact of being accountable or to blame for something.

IN the end, we are all responsible for our own choices, and others are responsible for the choices they make in interacting with us. so because we interact with so many people, I wonder why we so often look for only one to be to 'blame' when something bad happens.

I was watching a popular NETFLIX series about a girl who killed herself. The series explored whose 'fault' it was. The parents thought she was happy because she never let on otherwise. The adults at the school were given two vague clues in the form of an ANONYMOUS note in a class where the teacher promoted ANONYMOUS sharing and a visit to a counsleors. The issue was the teacher could not really act on something that was meant to be ANONYMOUS except to offer resources for anyone thinking of harming themselves, which is what that teacher did. The counselor who spoke to the girl was told by her that she 'didnt know' if something happened so all he could do was give her her options to go to police or try to move on, which is what he did.

Everyone 'blamed' everyone else. but in the end, it was HER choice to deal with her struggles by ending her life, even though plenty of people held some level of responsibility on her path to making that decision.

Do you ever try to think about responsibility (which is rarely one person or thing) instead of 'fault' and 'blame' or is pointing a finger and being done a bit easier?