Will do! Jerry

Watched lesson as instructor informed me that for first time in a long time he did not have a "single" show up looking for someone to dance with. He is a good dancer/instructor. they started at @7pm. It was not until around 9 that Some came in to dance. By 10 it was so smokey I called it a night. There was one lady that often broke out of her covey and move out in the open until she was ask to dance. I watched her dance with at least 10 or more men. She walked by and said in passing " Next song that is like the ones we used to listen to growing up come get me and we'll dance if you want." Guess where I went when George came on??? As we danced she told me of a group of single again adults that dance on Sunday's outside of Taylor,Texas said it's purpose was to "meet"and dance and not become a "meat market". May try to go this Sunday. Would have been better if there were more interested in dancing than mating. Too loud. Too smokey Too Young after 10 that location. Jerry

Oldest daughter works for "Child protective services " in Vegas and I'm planning a trip in the near future. I understand there are three or four places now to "scoot a boot". See what you can discover and we will see if you can find it again. jerry

What do you burn (fuel) in it and what do you cook in it? Going to "Buck up " and try some C/W lessons tonight. See if I can help some beginners get the hang of it. They always say "yes" when looking for someone to help them learn. They are usually standing alone in the middle of the floor with a panic look considering heading for the door when I offer to help for the lesson. (gentleman that I am) later Jerry

Your hair is a fireball and it looks good on you long and short but I must say the short on top of the pinkish dress is the best for me. Sassy ,fiesty, yet classy. People looking. Some of us like what we see and read. Alas it is the cost of gas!!!! jeri

Accessible--Climbing over tables and chairs to get to the table at the back wall full of ladies is like running an obstacle course with/without the concern of spilling someones beverage.

Approachable--They circle up arms locked like covered wagons circled against the Indians so you have to speak to the back of their heads. When you do speak all circle faces suddenly turn scrutinizing you from head to toe. When the one you ask to dance seems to snap head back to the circle seeking the approval from others to exit the circle to dance or the "not now" results in the entire circles eyes saying NO stomachs knot. So you have numerous "not nows" to deal with. Bucking up to try again from one is tough enough but having to shove down 5 Nos at a time is rougher. What about body language,dress,location.

Available--How do you know they are when the table is mixed and "coupled is the image"or 5 dances in a row with the same person screams "coupled" as opposed to "mixing"?
Yes, it is the REJECTION that I wrestle with quite honestly. Tough for me to admit as it was seldom an issue for me as an "incrowder" most of my life. But now I am pushing through a new reality working to get to your comfort level. Just looking for a way to remove some stumbling blocks along the way.

The walls of boredom were squeezing me to the point I was going stir crazy. The lesser of two sources of pain I shined up and risk stepping out for the evening. The uncertainty of what I was attempting to do creating fear like that of my first prom experience decades earlier. It had been a long time since I had ventured into a new place as a stranger/newcomer not to mention that now I was wearing a "male single again" label.
The hostess took my cover charge and smiled stating "We are glad you decided to come to our event.". She turned to the next in line and using identical words took the cover charge from them forcing me to step forward into the room. I moved making a pathway for those following to to do likewise. Resisting running out the door back to a safer known territory I eased over against the wall where I could observe from afar. The sea of faces mingling and mixing around me left sounds of a long forgotten time in my past. I was much more comfortable with it then (was I comfortable then? no!!) than I was at the moment.
I stood in line to purchase a bottle of water and acted like I knew what I was doing as I moved to a vantage point across the room where I could enjoy the music and consider the likely hood of asking someone to dance. The risk of REJECTION was welling up to the point of "Fear equals Flight".

Bam Bam,The question of the moment.{"Who here is: (1)Available,(2)Approachable, and(3)Accessible at the same time? What signals are you sending that blind me can recognize? Help me!!!} I want to understand these three "A'S" better or other additional "A" topics you want to open up.(NOT!"Why all males are Anal Orifices!") Educate me! I want to be competent in knowing what to do/say the next time and thus reducing my fears of being turned away.

To kick things off I will tell you that a "clearly coupled lady" at a table away: (two hours into the event Thank Goodness the bands were great) approached me about moving to their table and dancing with her "single again" sister who was covey-ed in like a Quail among the table full of couples dancing with their spouses. Thus the evening
was not a total loss but I want more from my experience. Inform me!!