Meet tools? As in Mutual Match? It is only a wee game. Best thing is, to participate in the forums

Well what exactly are you trying?
I mean this OP seems like just a big billboard trying to attract traffic.


How many sites are you on?
What exactly are you doing on those sites? Emailing people? Going the passive aggressive approach?
Like are you looking at profiles and trying to start up conversations?
Or are you just using the "pokes," or, "nudges," or "likes" features?
Are you looking at the "viewed me" sections and then changing your profile to what you think those looking at you are looking for?

Are you using anything other than dating sites/apps?


That's what a lot of people say.
But what exactly are your experiences?
For example a lot of women put "No ONS! No hookups! Not here for sex! No FWB! Tired of the f-boys!" But when you ask them about their experiences, that's generally what happens. They go out, and surprise surprise they keep dating the guys and go along and getting exactly that.
Instead of taking any responsibility for their choices, they play the victim, using it to rationalize not trying, but justifying feeling righteous using passive aggressive behavior and being entitled.

And there are some women that put they're looking for their "soulmate" or "the one," or something, but they never actually date, they always find some flaw, some reason to never meet. Never date. At most they'll get into an email pseudo relationship where they just chat back and forth and then build up a false sense of commitment and bonding. They aren't looking for "the one," or a "soul mate," they just want attention, entertainment, to feel desired and chased, to feel as though they have social cache.
Most of the time that gets old. They don't get the same chemical high after a while, so they go find forums or boards and then start complaining "where are the good ones?!" and paint themselves as victims...in order to get attention, to form more safe, distant, controllable pseudo relationship/echo chambers.

Or kind of like pricing cars.
Let's say you have 10 Lamborghini's. The expectation could be that you sell each of them for $100.000, and you go to an online market place, but no one's buying them for that much, so you sell 8 for $10,000 because that's all anyone's willing to offer, and you accept to just get by and pay the bills, but then you start demanding people pay $460,000 for the last two in order to make up for how much you wanted in the beginning, not realizing that the market is setting the price at $10,000 and you don't get to control it?

Point being, what are the expectations vs. reality.
There's what you hoped for. What did you expect you would have to do to get it?
What are you actually doing? And what is actually happening?


So, you say:
"sometimes feel tired of trying "
but what are you actually trying?

I mean think of careers.
Some people get so tired of going to employer after employer on job sites like linkedin or indeed.
But they never really updated their resume, they never took classes to acquire the skills the employers actually want, they never really considered that employers are comparing them to every other applicant.
At most they've just decided on how much they want to make, and the type of corporate culture they want to be a part of, and what kind of hours they want to work, and how much vacation time and minimum benefits they're going to demand when they get an interview.


I don't know, I just wonder. Are you tired of trying? Or are you realizing how much you need to do in order to be successful, and you really just don't want to do it?

One post in three and a half years? That's not trying very hard.