ok, i am not explaining myself very well or i do not understand something which i thought i did. let me try again:

i currently receive a notification that says someone is interested. i go to the mutual matches section and there they are. i then have the option to rate them. this part i get.

what i don't get is how to initiate a rating for me. i want to know how to have the mutual match work the other direction. me first and then they reply. for example: how would i make it so that you would recieve the notification that i was looking to you for a match?

also thank you for taking the time to get this through my thick skull.

right, but how do i send the option of others to see if they have an interest?

how do you initiate a mutual match? like if i want them to receive a notification about me

how do you send a "mutual match"? i know how to respond but how do you initiate?