It's also fair to say that cultures and economies of people around the globe differ in the criteria by which they define intelligence. Is it hands-on knowledge that evokes a sense of intelligence, as in the examples of fixing a flat, changing the oil, laying tile in the foyer? To some women, that's the epitome of manliness, a take charge do-it-yourself guy. Yet, to others intelligence is more an aesthetic characteristic, evinces a knowledge of history, politics, travel and a cosmopolitan view of the world. I liken that to taking the Foreign Service exam, that diplomatic intelligence which reveals your fine liberal education. Yes, traditionally, we in the Western world classify intelligence with a Stanford-Binet or Wechsler AIS, or popularly carrying a Mensa card in your wallet (or purse, as the case may be). My point is this, depending on your social or economic strata and with whom you rub shoulders, that will determine how you're typecast. In some circles, what is common knowledge would be considered high-brow conversation. Engineers, physicians, lawyers all have their own circles of life, as do truckers, iron-workers, etc. Life is a melange of meeting people who are, or are not, your peers, your intellectual equals, or your moral equals. One has to be willing to be genuine with that other person on those issues which are most valued in your respective lives. That said, I'd not get into a relationship with anyone who wants to compel a dramatic change in either person, as it just will not likely work. Perhaps the Indian caste system has it right after all, one stays endogamous to their own.