YOU WROTE: "NO, every woman and every man is not different!! There are basic psychological profiles we all fit into. You may be split to some extent in different areas but we all fit someplace. Disregarding a few psycho people, we all are either emotionally independent or dependent to some degree. That answer is based on how much you depend on other human beings to meet your emotional needs. Are you happy with who you are if you never heard anyone compliment you or give y0u positive emotional strokes again? Some people need no one to support their emotional well being while others need someone multiple times a day. When you figure this out, you will have some idea of the type of relationship you can be happy in.

Most people belong in a co-dependent relationship. They need some level of emotional strokes from their partner on a regular basis. Something like a regular text, a little gift now and then, or maybe that wink and smile across the room. Others are just as happy without any of that and sometimes consider those emotional touches an interference in their normal routine. Ever give someone a card you thought was special and they politely acknowledged the card and the next day threw it in the garbage? How did you feel seeing your special card under the morning coffee grounds? While it was important to you it meant very little to them. They didn't need those positive emotional strokes while you did!"


I RESPOND: Personality tests attempt to fit humans into different categories based on responses to questions asked and the answers have variances depending on the individual's day, emotional moment during the test, and etc. It use to be thought that personalities change over a human's lifeline and personality was based not only on genetics but also on environmental experiences. For some time now, the thought is that most people have a somewhat static personality from birth. I view personality as a continuum of sorts; certainly genetic components as well as environmental influences as well as experiences that one's brain interprets as particularly traumatic.

Humans are social animals, as a whole. There seems an innate need for other-human interaction. The extent of that need is individually based. Regarding relationships, the wanting of attention from a partner is what separates an intimate relationship from a platonic relationship. I posit that the person who feels as though their partner's attention is an interruption in their life ought not be in an intimate relationship. If a person needs no support for their emotional well-being (as a constant non-need) it would raise psychological red flags as it is outside the realm of normalcy.

Certainly personality, and the fluctuations contained therein, continue to be researched as it is very difficult to quantify that which is so different from person to person. And yes, while there are overarching categories for personality, don't confuse that 'umbrella' with the components that make individuals. Does this make sense? It's a tricky topic to type about.

I don't like a lot of the noise and the hustle and bustle of society. I much prefer quiet and open spaces.

What age do I give up looking for a soul mate? I suppose it would be when my heart is hardened by cynicism and has lost hope. I'm not one to give up on much of anything if it's important to me. So what age? There is no age. There's always hope.

My favorite breed is the Kangal livestock guardian dog. I have several and they're such smart and independent thinkers. Truly awesome dogs.

Moody Blues: Question of Balance

I live remotely and so it's very quiet of human noises. Living without all the distractions has brought me to a place of acceptance and contentment with who I am. And that sort of peace of Soul is really nice. With all of that is a yearning to find my partner to share my life and heart with. I take great comfort in knowing that, for me, it's far better to be by myself than with the wrong person. I suppose being alone can be both joyful and cruel, but I think that love can be that way also. Sort of two sides of the same coin. Unless, of course, one is with who they're suppose to be with.

He sure did. Lol!

Oh! Wow, I didn't think about 'gold diggers'. Hmmm, being poor as a church mouse, of course I didn't! Lol! I'll do what you suggest. Thanks.

Okay, will do! Thank you.

I'm new to this site and have finally figured out that to see anyone who's wanting to rate me (?) costs money. Hmmm, I suppose I'm too frugal for that. By way of introduction, I'm a 59 year old woman. I was married for 25 years and that didn't end well. I have grown kids and grandkids. I live in a remote area on 65 acres and am off-grid. I raise cattle, goats, chickens, turkeys, and all that. I've got a couple of orchards and large gardens. My life is my land and clearly my land grows my food and so provides life. I'm content with my own company but would really love to discover a man who clicks with my quirks and vice versa. Not really much else to tell. I'm okay with being an open book so any questions or anything is way okay. It's nice to be here and to say hello :)

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