I'm brand new to dating three years after my wife's passing, and we were together eighteen years. At this point I'm ready to move forward. I've been on a two dates, one went well, the other not so much. My frustration is that almost all the responses I get seem to either want an instant family, or want me to be available at the drop of a hat. My daughter is seven and has been through a tremendous trauma, and I'm not going to introduce someone into her life if I'm not reasonably confident it will last beyond a few dates. I'm also not divorced, I don't share her with an ex. It's all the time, with support from some amazing friends. Plus I have a career. I'm finding it difficult to communicate that I want to start slow and casual, no long term expectations. I also don't need a hookup, casual sex or naked pictures. I realize this is a vent more than a conversation starter, but for the women, what are your thoughts on this. And for any widowed, younger fathers, I'd love to hear your experiences. There's not a lot of us around (which is a good thing). Cheers and be well.