Either you are a real grown up, a real mature adult, and you take complete responsibility for your choices and your actions, or you are NOT a true mature adult, and you skulk around and play games and lie, and try to blame "society" or the other person.

Interacting with other human beings romantically is serious business. What's actually described above, is a situation where guys are just pretending to be grownups, and are saying something like "I don't wanna tell her the TRUTH, because they I might not get what I want from her."

Zero honor to be found in this kind of thinking and behavior.

If you want to "date casually," and you also want to be a man of honor, then you will accept ALL of what comes as a result of that choice of yours, as completely your responsibility. Fun and unpleasant alike.