I would say there are 2 ways to tell. When your world is collapsing he will TRY his hardest to be there for you. That does not mean he will know what to say or do but will try.

He includes you in his dreams for the future and not in an "insert your name here" kind of way but will incorporate your dreams into his own.

-Mike

Lots of great comments and thoughts. I do love my wife very much and I still do want to spend the rest of my life with her. Love is not a finite resource and the more you share the more you have to give. It is not some sort of conquest I am looking for either. I do think it's funny how cheating is more socially acceptable in society then allowing your partner to meet other outside of the relationship without drama. I would not say that either of us pressured the other into it. We talk to each other about our desires and we truly want to make each other happy.

Will everyone understand...no. You couldn't be gay in public not that many years ago. BDSM is becoming more socially acceptable. This site has relationship categories that match the lifestyle choice I have made. So this site does cater to open relationships. There are many that do not.

As for issues with the good book...that will be between the maker and me when the time comes.

I was in a monogamous relationship for about 20 years when my wife and I decided to try something new. Did a bit of swinging but she was not really into it ( though occasionally we will still swing) and then we decided to try an Open Relationship. We both enjoy the new lifestyle choice though even she recognizes that is much more difficult for me.

I think in would be much easier if I was into BDSM but I am not going to try and be someone I am not. I have made a commitment to be truthful with the women I contact with which comes at a price. I would say 90% of the women bail at the first sign of my relationship situation. Many of the remainder I have just not been all that in too. I prefer alternative lifestyle sites but either membership is too low or they are practically porn sites.

I am just looking for great ladies to go out with that have some shared interests with me. I like women of many different sizes and nationalities but am pickier when it come to the mind. I would say I get 1 date every 2-3 months but I can burn through almost a whole site to find them in my area.

I would like to hear stories from others on a bit of their experience and what they have found.