As a mature and experienced man, my thought is this.

No matter what it is - Anything! If a man won't allow it to be done to him, he is a hypocrite.

If he wants to spank you or in fantasy use a belt or tie you up? He must allow you or someone to do the same.

If he wants to enter your rear - he must at least accept a similar size vibrator or something.

If he always wants oral, but disrespects men who do the same to each other, that is just not right.

If you choose to submit, that is your choice - but he must respect and honor you. Just because he is "the boss" and uses you mercilessly, does not mean he has all the power.

"What is good for the Goose, is good for the Gander." If he wants to give it, and you want it, OK, but will he do the same?

John, INdiana

I've only recently joined, and also at the same time met someone on Craigslist.

I was widowed about 3 years ago.

Now here I am thinking about moving forward, and a little bit aroused, and I can't sleep.

Is this normal? I'm a 57 year old man for God's sake - not some kid :)

You ladies are wonderful.

JohnH Indiana