Divorce decrees and filed divorces are public records so you can simply go to the court house in your area and check with the clerk of courts to see if there were any actions filed...Honestly sounds like ******** to me.... I know this sounds like a cop out, maybe he isn't ready to leave his wife...not because he doesn't want to be with you but because divorce means huge change and acknowledgment of probably the biggest failure in our lives. Im struggling with it myself right now...I'm not see anybody else but, lets face it, i wouldn't be here if I wasn't at least considering it...So good luck...just a suggestion - try to understand the situation...even though it seems like he's trying to get the best of both worlds (and maybe he is I don't know him) if he's a type A personality like me...we HATE to fail at anything and even though we know its over...acknowledging it in the form of a divorce makes it much more true. Be well.