Protect&Serve

thats messed up, robert. why would anyone want to play a game like that...especially if they think of you as a friend? not cool

sweetpea56

WeePeggie

exactly, s1lowhand! i have an awesome time with my friend when its just her and i or another friend (or a group of us girls and guys that i know) just going out to eat or going to see a movie or going to the mall...we crack each other up so much that we will be in tears. we have the same sense of humor which is one of the reasons we are so close. sometimes we even know what the other is thinking just by a look. but then you put us both in a club or a bar where there are tons of other people around and you cant even hear yourself think much less try to make friendly conversation and i just cant be myself. she loooves the club scene and thats where we differ. i do it because its fun for her and we do have fun hanging out, but i guess i just clam up and cant even approach a guy much less try to talk to him in a setting like that. every time we go out, i say to myself "ok, this time is going to be different. this time im gonna bite the bullet and just have fun and meet someone." and it just ends up being the same old story.

IntelligentButtJack

true hillfolk, but then there wouldnt be too many guys left in the club to choose from if the ones that are looking at her just magically disappeared, lol.

i dont want to give the wrong impression. im not jealous of my friend....or maybe more honestly, im not jealous of her in the malicious sense. we really are best friends. i even told her how it is that guys fawn all over her and she just brushes me off and says that she doenst think that its true. yeah right....and ya know what, both of my younger sisters are hot too. im a plain jane surrounded by hotness, thats what the prob is, lol, and i dont know how to deal with it. thats probably the main reason im still single.

Jeez, Sappony, im 29 years old! dont you think ive tried all of the things you've just said? its not me...i dont know how to work a room much less do it all by myself. ive always been painfully shy, but i can be fun and witty and somewhat outgoing if im just with my friends...but once i try to hook up or just talk to a strange guy that i find attractive, the shyness comes out.....and my best friend takes over, lol.....so all i can do is say bye-bye to another guy.

im pretty sure thats part of the prob, Spidercmb, my friend is very approachable. but - and dont think im shallow or fishing for compliments - but im not comfortable with the way i look and i dont think im all that attractive and i know thats why i lack confidence and am very shy when we go out...and im sure that doesnt help with my issue.

i know what you mean, sweetklp. dont get me wrong, i do look for an attractive guy when i go out, but he doesnt have to be drop dead gorgeous for me to think i'd be interested in him. if our personalities clicked and we have a good time and he makes me laugh, that would make him even more attractive to me....the problem is getting a chance to go that far...and for him to even be interested...that doesnt happen when he's staring at my best friend all night, ya know?

see what i mean? it's kind of a lose/lose situation.

My main problem is that I'm really shy and she is vey outgoing, so of course the attention is going to be on her. I can't compete with someone who always knows what to say and do and she's a terrific dancer...me, not so much, lol. Not that i want to compete with her for anything.....dating just sux all around.

I don't want to complain, but what the heck do you do when your best friend, the person you spend most of your time hanging out with, is so hot that every time you go out (bars, clubs, anywhere) every guy's eyes are on her? My best friend is awesome, dont get me wrong. We do everything together...she's the only person I "hang out" with, because I really dont have any other close friends. But I can't seem to catch a break with the guys even if I wanted to meet someone because every time - and I mean EVERY time - we go out together, even if its more than just the two of us girls, guys flock to her like moths to a flame. She's so vibrant and funny and gorgeous, so she definitely deserves the attention. But it sux for me. She even tried to hook me up with an "acquaintance" who she thought would be perfect for me, but guess what? He fell for her instead. Any advice on what to do?

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TittyBitNipply

LMAO! Lonely, at first i thought you were talking about my hair....roots, now i get it! heeheehee

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