Everyone's perspective is appreciated and provokes thought.

Don't know if you are supposed to reply/contribute to your own blog so
if not they can cancel me. Here's another piece of this mosaic--I am a
child custody and criminal defense attorney. I see this stuff every
day. My advice to clients is to get out with your kids and your
credit--if the situation has truly become counter-productive enough.
That test is my personal dilemma--it is tolerable yet empty. We do not
fight or yell; we do not hate each other; we really are like two
individuals raising children, and it seems the kids are well adjusted.
So, I'm back to the analysis of which route is the more selfish.

Can't believe I already have replies. Thanks to both of you. The main
issue I fight with myself over is which direction is truly the selfish
one, and which one is the self-sacrificial one. I am one of those who
believes that self-sacrifice is a huge part of love. I love my children
very much and I have just not resolved that basic dilemma yet.

What do you do when you have an emotionless marriage yet do not want to
drop a nuclear device on your kids?