For your information I ma not saying I am ugly, I am not ugly in fact!
even if I was, what is ugly anyway?
beauty is always in the eye of the beholder!!

One person may not find a person attractive, whilst another does etc!

I started this post trying to prove a point, that unfortunately people just go by looks ie Picture surfing, and using an analogy of going to a book shop and just choosing a book by it's cover.
From the vast majority of replies on this forum so far, I think I have proved my point from the answers.

It's a real shame that shallowness has took over so much on dating sites! and real life also.

And one more thing I am a very confident person, I am a musician, Play in a band write songs,Play gigs all over the uk.
I have done lectures on Psychology at universities in England.
so do not accuse me of having little confidence, thank you very much!

Lol
You Kidding me or what?
1st maybe if the book has a nice cover, you still have to read the thing in the first place. Der

and 2nd as for people who start posts like this are future serial Killers, very childish and stupid.
and if you are talking about Books with covers, judging from your picture you really look like the stereotypical serial Killer!

So don't come out with stupid and childish comments please!

Hi Rhys
Joe from Liverpool
How's things?

Hey tennyson
I totally agree with you, that's why I started this post, I think you are the only person who understands what I meant!
If you read the replies I got you will know were I am coming from
People actually said they go by book covers!? weird.

It's the person that matters not the shell outside..

Peace!

Keep on Keeping on

Thorb you are right in what you say,
but at least in real life ie Parties work, social events, you can tell from body language, and real conversation face to face etc. all you have to go on is a picture on a dating site, then possibly there profile!
I am not saying it is impossible to meet the one on a dating site! all I am saying it's a hell of a lot harder, than in a real life situation!
As there are so many advantages in a real life scenario, chemistry, body language, communication everything really.

Hi Jenny
That is total rubbish, I, and I know lot's of men who are not just after one thing. I am sorry if you may have met some men like that. But please don't put all us Men in that category! because you are totally wrong with that assumption.

Did I say, it was superficial? I was laughing with you, saying I agree with everything you said apart from the guys butts are cute bit!

That's fantastic! good on you both!

Hi Sweetgirl I agree with everything you said. well apart from the Male cute Bum thing Lol

And Ellana, I ma sorry but I can't mind read, all I had to go on was what you said, ie Skype, e-mails etc.
So did you say Yes?

Hi
I am a bass player, was in bands still play.
Any female musicians/Singers, or someone who loves proper Music! in NW England fancy a chat?

Joe

Damn wrong country typical!

I am sorry to hear that, you say you put Lipstick on for Men?
So you are saying you just totally go by looks, and hopefully with luck, a decent one will come along eventually some day? is that what you are saying???
That is total madness! and by the way I never said they are supposed to do anything ie concerning pictures etc. it's totally upto the individual if they just go by pictures, just not my choice!

How can you say it has worked? you e-mail, you Skype? you are not in a relationship!
when you are in a relationship with someone from a dating site then you can say it has worked! not just messaging, or Skyping, or a few meetings, Surely the serious people on dating sites are looking for a loving and hopefully lasting relationship, or I missing the point here?

Come on dating sites are totally different.
you can tell a hell of allot face to face in person, body language etc,simple communication, unless your psychic I don't think you can get that from a picture!?
by the way if you found your needle in a haystack why are you still on a dating site?

Why are you all so defensive? I never made any assumptions, from anyone else on this forum. I simply said from my experience, and the people I know of on dating sites it is there experience also!

What? according to my numbers I am at 3? what the hell does that actually mean? you obviously can't see the point I am trying to make.
It's simple really don't judges people on what they look like, ie Pictures on dating sites.

I am not making any assumptions on anybody, it's just a fact that the vast majority of people on dating sites picture surf!

And that's the problem I have with them, I met my Wife for 17 years in real life, remember that, when you meet someone face to face, and have a connection etc.
I think the chances of meeting the one on a dating site, is comparable to a needle in a haystack.

Very interesting replies to my post, from what I can gather there seem to be a lot of people who by books by the cover?! which is odd.
The point I was trying to make was that when it comes down to it people on dating sites just picture surf.
It's ok saying but I read the profile, and if I don't like something about the profile, I will not contact them or respond. but one of the main reasons you got to the profile in the first place is because you though the picture was reasonable, ie some sort of attraction etc.

I have met up with quite a few woman on various dating sites, some very attractive some maybe not so in some peoples eyes, it doesn't matter how attractive you find someone if the spark, or connection is not there,you probably won't see each other again.
It's all about connection, similar interests, Musical tastes, Sense of Humour it's the whole Package.

Believe me if you pick that book up with the wonderful cover, and you start reading it, and you realize it's one of the worst books you have ever read, you probably won't get past chapter 2!

I have had 2 long-distance relationships, one 5.5 hours away, one 2.5 hours away.
I have to say it is very difficult, the problem is if your in a relationship you should be able to see each other with ease, ie be on the phone say at 4.00pm in the afternoon, and be together before 5 if you both want to etc.
At some point in the relationship if you get serious, ie in a long distance one, one of you have to make the decision, is it you go there and give up your house/Flat/Job, or they come to you and do the same. that's the problem, at least if you live close ie under 1 hour away, you don't have to give up your job, and you can see each other allot more, and see if a relationship can work between both of you, before that commitment happens.
So in the long run I really don't think Long distance relationship's can work!

My experience on dating sites so far is that most people just picture surf, if the picture is liked, contact may be made, if not it won't end off!
It's a bit like going to a book shop and just looking at all the covers, not reading the appendix in the book, just picking the book totally by it's cover!

I think that's the big problem with internet dating compared to meeting someone in person, ie socially, work, chance meeting in a supermarket etc, you can have a chat in person, it's totally about the person then, not a picture!