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Thu 06/09/16 07:15 AM

Yes, it is difficult to get in the dating scene after coming out of a long term relationship. I lost my husband of 30 years to cancer 5 years ago. I have been trying for the last 2 years to meet someone, but most of the people I have talked with have been scammers. Of course I have not been stupid enough to fall for there schemes. I am not a rich women, I work hard for everything I get and am not about to just hand it over to strangers from other countries. Its alot different from when I was young and dating. Good luck everyone

I am sorry you've had this type of experience! Good for you for being smart enough not to fall prey to the scammers!! I wish you success for whatever it is that you're looking for!!

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Thu 06/09/16 07:13 AM

I'd also say, take your time. You haven't let go, so you cannot start something else.
Like someone suggested, join a club or a class... painting, cooking, poker, walking together, whatever. Go somewhere you meet other ppl. You might find a lady that you can build a friendship with and who knows.
I've always understood that Americans meet ppl at church. Before or after I guess. So maybe that's an option.
And go easy on yourself. You can't force things, but do try to work on letting go.

Thank you for your advice! It's as though I really did know these things, but to hear/see someone else say them, helps a lot.

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Wed 06/08/16 04:40 PM

what was that formula

for every year married allow a month of healing

was that right...


so give yourself a break
being with someone for that long
of course you will still care about each other


what about your interests? are there clubs to join?

or maybe a summer concert in the park?

something in the community where you might run
into people with similar interests?

I had never seen that formula before! Sadly, it does make sense, though. I'm sort of like the buzzard perched in the tree who says, "Patience hell, I'm going to kill something!" (No, I'm not really going to kill...anything!!! Just an analogy!) I hope I don't have to wait that long! I know it's all about timing. Thank you for your input!!:smile: :smile:

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Wed 06/08/16 04:36 PM
Edited by Silverheel on Wed 06/08/16 04:41 PM

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Wed 06/08/16 10:39 AM
Ok, here goes. I was married for 31 years and now divorced. It's been about a year and a half. Part of the problem is that I haven't let go. We are still friendly to each other. We both say that we love each other, but no pretense of getting back together. I'm trying to get into the proper mindset, but have difficulty doing so. I do a lot of things solo, motorcycle riding, kayaking, stained glass, walk/hiking. I miss someone to share things with. It's frustrating. I'm not normally a shy person, quite the contrary, but it's that "getting the courage up to ask a woman out" thingy. Oh brother, do I need some help!!! Any advice, words of encouragement will be very welcome!!!

Thanks in advance,
Robert

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Mon 06/06/16 08:03 PM
Hi everyone!
What is the difference between those profiles that have a red colored heart and those which have only the outline of a heart??
New on this so am still finding out things!! Thanks in advance!!

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Mon 06/06/16 04:31 PM
You're not really going to leave us hanging with what you learned are you???!!! C'mon!!! Give it up!!!

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Mon 06/06/16 04:15 PM
That's kind of alarming to find out!!! With the exception to the picture with the hat, those are some pretty recent pictures!!! I'm not sure what is going on with that!!!
I did try touching my elbow to my ear...with both elbows and both ears!!! JK!!!

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Mon 06/06/16 06:27 AM
Thanks, TMommy! I'll take another look at that last picture!

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Mon 06/06/16 05:25 AM
Hey!! Thanks for the suggestion about changing my main photo. As you can see, I did take your advice! I chose the other one originally, because it was a more recent picture. I'm not sure why I look familiar or why you think that the group picture was one you had seen before. I promise you, it really is just me. I'm not a game player! Thanks again for the advice! I enjoy these forums!!

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Sun 06/05/16 11:56 AM
I have been doing stained glass for about 3 years. I thoroughly enjoy it!!!

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Sun 06/05/16 11:50 AM
What should I change about my profile to make it better???

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Sun 06/05/16 09:02 AM
Don't be offended by their comment about how tall you are. Just check them off your list. If I lived near you, I would be flattered to go out with you! Some people just don't get it!!!