i can understand that .For instance ,when i joined mingle i decided not to put my photo up because i wanted the guy to get to know me for my mind etc..yeah i know that sounds tacky.anyway the result was... a few messages every now and then, some asking for my photo immeadiatly, and after photo rejection they didnt want to know me . End result being ,i did enter my photo and got ample responses,but the' your cute' etc responses told me what i wanted to know about them.
they didnt give a hoot about my interests etc. anyway i decided im going to delete my photo and just play the waiting game.