They pretend to be Military Men because they want you to think they are men of honor. They tell you they are widowed to get you to feel sorry for them. Most will say they have a child but the child lives with a relative. They try to gain your trust they are Nigerian scammers or some other country. They will come on very strong like they are falling in love with you very quickly. After a bit they will tell you something tragic happened and they need you send them money to help them. They tell you as soon as they get back they will pay you back. Don't ever Give anyone money over the internet ever. Good Luck. Most will write you messages in broken English. Good luck and be careful.