Hi!
I have exactly the same concerns. I think that one can tell if a man is capable to love a child that isn’t his. It’s clear that I won’t engage in a relationship with a man who’s not capable to embrace my child and I.
I’m a single mother too, I haven’t been on the dating scene for a long time but the only advice I can give you is to take your child to the very first date. If it’s not meant to be, well, then it’s not the end of the world. Children come first always.
I wish you to meet a gentle man, you only need to be confident in yourself!