Community > Posts By > daleray1606
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It's Official!!
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That is Awesome... Congrats to ya'll |
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Why are some women........
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i wonder if it ever occured to anyone that the reason she isn't interested in you in because there IS no interest. that her past experiences have nothing at all to do with her rejection of the male? If that is the case then she is a good liar too. oh? so you are THAT wonderful, THAT irresistable, THAT perfect that it couldn't possibly have anything to do with you? it MUST be HER fault huh? no wonder they are scared. Wow I think ya'll are on a different subject... Oh well |
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Why are some women........
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Because most women don't think it will last or it is a dream that we will someday wake up from I agree and would like to add... that they are not accustomed to being treated well so they freak out a bit sometimes.. Ladies you should be treated well and there is nothing wrong with dating the "Nice guy"... A warning if you constantly look for the other shoe to drop... YOU may Cause it to drop... One Note for All The person you are with Now.. IS NOT YOUR EX !!!!!! So please don't treat them like they are your ex.... IMHO |
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From Darkness to Light
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Tyvm LA |
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I think we need to show this to our daughters as well, even maybe have a class on it. Now that is a great Idea!!! |
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Manipulation.........
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My last boyfriend manipulated me to the point where I gave up all of my friends. He made me feel as if he and I were going to be together forever. He cheated on me and left me cold. He always lied to me, and I didn't find any of this out until after he and I broke up. This is why I want a female partner now.. With the hopes that a female would understand me better.... I hate to tell you KT, there are women out there that are just as bad as men, so don't think that is going to make things better. I whole heartedly concur.. Males & Females can be guilty |
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Well All Ya'll are quite Welcome. I get seriously upset when I see a woman being treated poorly. I just wanted to help is all.... ![]() |
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Lies........
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age, weight, cup size, penis size Don't forget financial status...lol. We have a Financial Status? When did this happen??? |
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Been there. Five times in my life. Five different men and five different sets of circumstances. I have since learned (the hard way) how to keep myself "safe." Thank you for the post. I hope others will see it before they are forced to cope with the things I've been though. I'm sorry you had to go through all of that. I also hope that others will see this and take it to heart... |
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Thanks {{{Daleray}}} ![]() Ty Catchme |
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Seriously Nobody posts anything hmmm |
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If this isn't the right place for this please forgive me. I just think that it is very Important... Thank you (No Joke) PLEASE READ, THEN PASS IT ON !!! This is long but is good info for everyone. Through a Rapist's Eyes (No Joke) Please pass it along and share it with your children. A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interviewed on what they look for in a potential victim and here are some interesting facts: 1) The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle. They are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun, braid or other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed. They are also likely to go after a woman with long hair. Women with short hair are not common targets. 2) The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for women who's clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry scissors around specifically to cut clothing. 3) They also look for women on their cell phone, searching through their purse, or doing other activities while walking because they are off-guard and can be easily overpowered. 4) Men are most likely to attack & rape in the early morning, between 5: 00 a.m.and 8:30a.m. 5) The number one place women are abducted from/attacked is grocery store parking lots. The number two: office parking lots/garages. Number three: public restrooms . 6) The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman and quickly move her to another location where they don't have to worry about getting caught. 7) Only 2% said they carried weapons because rape carries a 3-5 year sentence but rape with a weapon is 15-20 years. 8) If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged because it only takes a minute or two for them to realize that going after you isn't worth it because it will be time-consuming. 9) These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas, or other similar objects that can be used from a distance, in their hands . Keys are NOT a deterrent because you have to get really close to the attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince these guys you're not worth it. 10) Several defense mechanisms he taught us are: If someone is following behind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an elevator or stairwell, look them in the face and ask them a question , like what time is it?, or make general small talk: ' I can't believe it is so cold out here ,' ' We're in for a bad winter.' Now you've seen their face and could identify them in a line-up; you lose appeal as a target. 11) If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in front of you and yell STOP! Or STAY BACK! Most of the rapists this man talked to said they'd leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would not be afraid to fight back . Again, they are looking for an EASY target. 12) If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of it and carries it with him wherever he goes), yell I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY and holding it out will be a deterrent. 13) If someone grabs you, you can't beat them with strength but you can by outsmarting them . If you are grabbed around the waist from behind, pinch the attacker either under the Arm (between the elbow and armpit) OR in the upper inner thigh VERY VERY HARD . One woman in a class this guy taught told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who was trying to date rape her and was so upset she broke through the skin and tore out muscle strands - the guy needed stitches. Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as you can stand it - it hurts. 14) After the initial hit, always GO for the GROIN. I know from a particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy's parts it is extremely painful . You might think that you'll anger the guy and make him want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause a lot of trouble. Start causing trouble and he's out of there . 15) When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers and bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing down on them as possible . The instructor did it to me without using much pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked audibly. 16) Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware of your surroundings, take someone with you if you can and if you see any odd behavior, don't dismiss it, go with your instincts!!! You may feel a little silly at the time, but you'd feel much worse if the guy really was trouble. 1. Tip from Tae Kwon Do : The elbow is the strongest point on your body. If you are close enough to use it, do! 2. Learned this from a tourist guide in New Orleans : If a robber asks for your wallet and/or purse, DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM . Toss it away from you....chances are that he is more interested in your wallet and/or purse than you, and he will go for the wallet/purse. RUN LIKE MAD IN THE OTHER DIRECTION! 3. If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car, kick out the back tail lights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving like crazy. The driver won't see you, but everybody else will. This has saved lives. 4. Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping, eating, working, etc., and just sit (doing their checkbook, or making a list, etc.) DON'T DO THIS! The predator will be watching you, and this is the perfect opportunity for him to get in on the passenger side, put a gun to your head, and tell you where to go. AS SOON AS YOU GET INTO YOUR CAR, LOCK THE DOORS AND LEAVE. a. If someone is in the car with a gun to your head DO NOT DRIVE OFF, repeat: DO NOT DRIVE OFF ! Instead gun the engine and speed into anything, wrecking the car. Your Air Bag will save you. If the person is in the back seat they will get the worst of it. As soon as the car crashes bail out and run. It is better than having them find your body in a remote location. 5 A few notes about getting into your car in a parking lot or parking garage: A.) Be aware: look around you, look into your car, at the passenger side floor, and in the back seat. B.) If you are parked next to a big van, enter your car from the passenger door. Most serial killers attack their victims by pulling them into their vans while the women are attempting to get into their cars. C.) Look at the car parked on the driver's side of your vehicle, and the passenger side. If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearest your car, you may want to walk back into the mall, or work, and get a guard/policeman to walk you back out. IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY. (And better paranoid than dead.) 6. ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs. (Stairwells are horrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot. This is especially true at NIGHT!) 7. If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control, ALWAYS RUN! The predator will only hit you (a running target) 4 in 100 times. And even then, it most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ. RUN, preferably in a zigzag pattern! 8. As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic: STOP! It may get you raped or killed. Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a good-looking, well-educated man, who ALWAYS played on the sympathies of unsuspecting women. He walked with a cane, or a limp, and often asked 'for help' into his vehicle or with his vehicle, which is when he abducted his next victim. 9. Another Safety Point: Someone just told me that her friend heard a crying baby on her porch the night before last, and she called the police because it was late and she thought it was weird. The police told her 'Whatever you do, DO NOT open the door.' The lady then said that it sounded like the baby had crawled near a window, and she was worried that it would crawl to the street and get run over. The policeman said, 'We already have a unit on the way, whatever you do, DO NOT open the door.' He told her that they think a serial killer has a baby's cry recorded and uses it to coax women out of their homes thinking that someone dropped off a baby. He said they have not verified it, but have had several calls by women saying that they hear baby's cries outside their doors when they're home alone at night. Please pass this on and DO NOT open the door for a crying baby --- This should be taken seriously because the Crying Baby theory was mentioned on America's Most Wanted this past Saturday when they profiled the serial killer in Louisiana . I'd like you to forward this to all the women you know. It may save a life. A candle is not dimmed by lighting another candle. I was going to send this to the ladies only, but guys, if you love your mothers, wives, sisters, daughters, etc., you may want to pass it onto them, as well. |
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Hello :)
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Welcome to the site! ![]() ![]() This is excellent advice. Welcome to the funhouse..LOL ![]() ![]() |
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Intro
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Welcome to the neighborhood... Try the Forums, they are a great way to meet people... ![]() |
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Hi! I just joined
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Welcome and have fun.. try the forums as well |
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hey
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Welcome to the site |
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Are you a cheater?
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I have never and will never cheat!!! I would want to put another person through the pain I endured when someone cheated on me... |
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From Darkness to Light
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Anyone else like to comment? |
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Would you stay?
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![]() ![]() Being addicted means it tends to dominate their thinking, making it difficult to work or engage in healthy personal relationships. In all probability, they might engage in distorted thinking, often rationalizing and justifying their behavior and blaming others for problems. Very likely, they might generally deny they have a problem and make excuses for their actions. There would most probably be risk-taking; and they might engage in it despite the potential for negative and/or dangerous consequences. In addition to damaging their relationships and interfering with his or her work and social life, the addiction would also put the person at risk for emotional and physical injury. If they had no motivation or willingness to change, I could not stay....even if it broke my heart. It wouldn't be healthy for me. Wow I agree with you and that was very well thought out & written |
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From Darkness to Light
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Thank you |
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