Not sure what keeps me in the situation, maybe because I did love her and can't figure out why she keeps coming back to me. Maybe I need to be a "BIG GIRL", stop looking at this twisted situation as more than that. I was okay at 1st because she I figured that the 3rd party was getting what happens when you get involved with someone that is married still. Then I went as far as hey they have an "open relationship" so how bad could it be. Now, it's about the fact that I may just be selling myself short. Not that I want a relationship at this time and I would definitly not be with anyone until I am divorced. Maybe whatever sick and destorted reason I'm beating myself up for not listening and getting married in the first place. I do appreciate all of your advice, and helping me immensely. Thank you

What do I need? I'm so lost, not confused until today but any advice would be considered right now.
So, I'm married but seperated and here is what makes my problem so complex. My ex is living with her new "wife", except for a couple of months during our seperation we have had lots of talks, still having sex, and do things for each other. She and her new mate have an open relationship, but I'm supposedly off limits. So when she comes to see me she lies about it! Don't know if I'm just being stupid, don't really care or if I should throw in the towel. Please don't misunderstand me, I'm not in love with my ex at this time, but she is convenient and technically still married to me. I'm looking for input because I'm not sure it's right or wrong. I say it's complex, actually it may be simple. I just may not hear or see what I should right now, being selfish? Thanks for any information you can give me to help me out of what may be a dilemma.