You do know that you are projecting your own undigested stuff here? And with that showing your mental/emotional state?

As for your argument: the playing field has always been a man's game until women began to take their power and personal rights and freedom back in the 60s. We're still not there.
Funny you only look at the aspect of sex and not see the whole picture.

As for sex, there's thousands of men who only want sex sex sex. Let's say there's 1000 men who want sex only -and often they're involved even!-, then there's only 1 woman wanting the same.
Meaning there's 999 women who want a meaningful connection and while searching the right one to have that with, they take care of their own needs.
So it's not like we have it easy, the cause is that many men are only focused on sex and we are not. That is the only reason it is easier for a woman to find a sexual partner.
If you men would be like us -looking for something meaningful- it'd be different.
Don't blame us for your sexual obsessions.

All grown adult men should already know that anyway; women operate from a position of abundant men, and so she is automatically expected to have several orbiting her at any given time.

I'm beginning to believe that the art of conversation is dead...or at least on life support. It's all BRB and LOL and you have 3 and 4 people sitting at a table not talking to each other, but all sending text messages back and forth. People don't know how to talk anymore.

oh, and let's not forget that percentage of the population that goes out of its way to be offended at just about everything somehow. They definitely help keep others quiet simply because they don't want an altercation...even talking about the weather can turn into global warming warfare...such fun.

Besides that, you have so many people being led by their hormones...that's really what many are only here for...looking for that next encounter. Forget meeting someone for the experience in learning about them, learning from them or vice-versa. It's all about how quickly I can get you out of your clothes and in between the sheets.

Finally, the majority of the population now are followers. Taking initiate has been wrung out of them and now people just wait to be told what to do, what to think and where to think it.

So all we're left with are the cranky old men, like me, screaming for people to stay off their lawns...

Well, I feel better now...perhaps I should switch to Sanka???

Consider yourself lucky in that as a woman, you have the easy FWB option.

Us guys can't typically set up such an up-front offer to a string of ladies. You ladies would clamor that men are pigs and that your'e here for serious relationships and children and marriage instead.

I mean real.ly god forbid if someone calls you b..ch or something.may be these people are just trying to be nice

I don't block, I just report them...Stopped counting at over 30 in one evening.

If you want to have a good relationship it alway start with a conversation. State your own reasons for a date here.. ️

Whoever votes for Dufus Biden and VP (Stacy Abrams) or (Romney) will soon be begging to have Trump back. If you really want to live in a socialist/communist country, I can name several. All you need is one change of clothing, a handful of quarters and a one way ticket to Cuba, Venezuela, Russia, Denmark, Vietnam, China, North Korea -- just be prepared to live in crowded homes with no running water, work til you drop in the fields, get sent to prison camps and starve to death while you dream of a simple piece of warm toast with real butter.

Trump improved our country 1000% and then China unleashed this virus which has hit countries all over the WORLD. All those who complain about him, I'd sure like to see you put us back together. If it can be done, Trump will get it done. He did Not CAUSE it. So shut up about that...do your part as a patriot.

Pelosi needs a nursing home. Schiff needs prison, preferably co-ed so he can talk to Hillary, and don't think for a minute that Romney is a Republican. Thats the old John McCain trick, Dem in Republican clothing. Utah only has one decent man Senator Mike Lee...conservative and a REAL Republican. IF you have any brains at all, you know Pelosi, AOC, Abrams, and those Muslim dames are doing everything they can to ruin our democracy. If you let it happen, then don't complain and don't ask me for a dollar to buy milk for your kids.

It takes more than sincerity.
If a man isn't what a woman wants, then the problem is with the man, not the woman.

Just one of a myriad of sneaky things that have been built into basic dating since forever.

In some areas, for example, young eager daters will invite someone to try something like, oh, say, to play beach volleyball. Nominally about shared interest in sports, while actually providing an extended opportunity to inspect the other person in a bathing outfit, posturing in all sorts of ways.

People have been known to arrange dates at fancy venues (museum presentation dinner kind of stuff), nominally to check for shared interest in things historical, but actually to check whether or not they know how to, and have the wherewithal to show up in formal wear.

Something to watch out for, is how lots of people do exactly the same thing, but use different tricks to accomplish it.

Most people have "checklists" which they try to fill in, at least those who are directly "on the prowl." However, not all of them are direct in how they go about sorting things out, so it can appear that they are looking (for example) for character rather than looks alone, while actually, they are using "character tests" as a way to more intent;y inspect physicalities.

...but it seems to me that men and women react to messages about potential dating in two different ways.

Men approach them like a job interview: Does the applicant fit the needs of the company?

Women approach them like a granting agency: What can I find wrong with the applicant so I can remove them for the process?

Thoughts?

It's why I am thought of as a picky grammarian by a number of people.

I'm not sure I'm all that happy with saying some things are a "choice" or not, by contrast, though. She and I might differ there. My sexual "orientation" sure as heck isn't a "preference" or a "choice." To me, "choice" implies that I COULD pick something else. "Preference" implies I actually WOULD take the other, if the one wasn't available.

Pardon? What are you saying MsHarmony?

Ok. Do you not get ugly, sexual, harrassing messages before you block them? I am not going to reply to a message which says,"Let's get naked on WhatsApp"". Which is his first or second message....
I owe no one an explanation when they are rude and disrespectful to me.
I am gone like a ghost...boo.

Hey Cat, I did not write the article, but I thought it might help people who are asking why people have stopped messaging them etc. Or why we do it to them....