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some of you may have noticed iv not been about as much as usual, but you may not have noticed at all  I got chatting with a girl in Canada, actually, right over the west side of Canada... quite a trek from the UK. We got on real well so i decided to take a flight over, and spent 10 days there. (10 hr flight to Vancouver, then a 1h30 flight from vancouver). We got on really well and i even got on great with her daughter (3years old). I'm not really used to children so i wasn't sure how things would be, but it was all good. It was hard having to leave to come back here. She had tears, and me, being a guy, put on a brave front and so on. 26 hours later (waiting at airport, time zones etc) and i was back home and ready to go back to my normal life and my career. I had a bit of a freaky time about a week or so after i got back. I got scared. Could i really do this? I lost confidence in myself and felt i couldnt do this. I avoided her messages, put a distance between us, built my self defence wall. Eventually i spoke to her about it and basically said that i didnt think i could do it. Cue more tears etc. I realised that really, it was just me being scared of the whole situation. I'm not the most open of people, and that didnt help, as i wasnt communicating how i felt. I spoke to her again and opened up about why i said what i did, and that i didnt mean it, and my fears and so on. I'm glad i did, but i know that open-ness is one of my weaknesses that i have to work on. So we're back to being happy again! Here's the thing, i really feel that i should be there. I've been working hard on my career over the last few years, up for a promotion over the next week and so on. I'm ready to throw that in (work in that line doesnt seem to come up in her city) and make the big brave leap! I'm staying in my job here for at least the rest of this year, they're letting me do various trade certifications that are globally recognised and will hold me in a stronger chance should the right job opportunity arise. I'm not sure HOW to pick up and move countries. I may even have to just do it and be an illegal for a period of time. Marriage is not an optional way around it, as she is currently married/seperated, and he's going to drag that out for the full duration! so thats where im at presently!  |
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I'd wait til she was divorced, but it's up to you.
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talk about boring(zzzz)  well, since you are bored this would be a good time to work on your profile..... cause thats all i want people to do is look at my pictures........DOY!!
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Hey my bad please except my apology.I am haveing an A D D day and when i saw the post I was like damn.I figured it was going to be short and I take full responsiblity in my rude comment I left you.......
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talk about boring(zzzz) well, since you are bored this would be a good time to work on your profile..... cause thats all i want people to do is look at my pictures........DOY!!  ....now im just wondering who (out of all those ugly pics) are YOU??
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talk about boring(zzzz) well, since you are bored this would be a good time to work on your profile..... cause thats all i want people to do is look at my pictures........DOY!!  I am so happy for U!!!!!!
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talk about boring(zzzz) well, since you are bored this would be a good time to work on your profile..... cause thats all i want people to do is look at my pictures........DOY!! ....now im just wondering who (out of all those ugly pics) are YOU??
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talk about boring(zzzz) well, since you are bored this would be a good time to work on your profile..... cause thats all i want people to do is look at my pictures........DOY!! ....now im just wondering who (out of all those ugly pics) are YOU??
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Wait until she is divorced. It is far wiser, if you are going to make a move overseas, do it legally. Canada is a great country to live. As you are in the IT field there are probably some good opportunities, do your research, contact Immigration services. Good luck whatever you decide.
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Edited by
Jess642
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Mon 03/24/08 03:33 PM
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if you wish to pursue the relationship, move. you can always move again. life is short so have fun and spend it with one who wishes your company and whose company you also enjoy. anyplace can be interesting if you decide to make it interesting...and who knows? maybe your next move will not be solo. welcome back  Here Here!!!! I am experiencing something similar right now, after communicating on-site for as long as I have been around JSH, with one of my many friends, it took a turn, around early november last year. It is not practical for myself and my children to relocate to Canada right now, and so Karma, has chosen to take the plunge and travel to Australia.... It is a hard call, and one I could never demand of him, if anything I have tried every way to change his mind about travelling here, and yes, because of my fears.. Not the "What if it isn't?".....but the "What if it is?". He knows his own mind, and he makes his own decisions, and recognises my fears, and is not concerned about them... This is possibly the biggest adventure I have ever embarked on, and now, the fears, are turning into excitement. It will be whatever it is supposed to be... And in 24 days we will figure it out. No expectations, no disappointments.
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This is possibly the biggest adventure I have ever embarked on, and now, the fears, are turning into excitement. <<<BANZAI! BANZAI! BANZAI!>>>
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This is possibly the biggest adventure I have ever embarked on, and now, the fears, are turning into excitement. <<<BANZAI! BANZAI! BANZAI!>>>  Karma has no internet for a while.... and oh boy!!! this test sucks!!!  Thank goodness for international calls... Oh and hello Harry!!!
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good luck geterrrrrrrr doneeeeeeee
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Only comment UK .... do NOT move until she is AVAILABLE. Period. Don't let your feelings alone move you hon.
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